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Panicking - keeps going to voicemail

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OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:35

I don't know if this is the right place but since 4pm my boyfriends phone keeps going to voicemail.

He sent me a text last at 12.35pm to which I replied but he didn't.

Thinking nothing of it other than busy at work I tried to call him at 4pm voicemail. Again nothing of it, in a meeting perhaps.

But from 7pm its constantly straight to voicemail and I've been paranoid enough to call from different phones to make sure he's not just ignoring me for some reason, but keeps going to voicemail.

His two texts earlier today were perfectly lovely and normal including "love you" etc.

His landline is out of order and I don't have any friends numbers. I keep checking if he's gone on fb but hasn't.

I'm really really worried.

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Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:40

Bump.

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ImperialBlether · 06/07/2012 23:42

Well, when I phone my children's phones and the battery's down, it goes straight to voicemail.

Were you expecting to see him today? Do you live together?

1sassylassy · 06/07/2012 23:43

I was going to suggest flat battery as well.

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:44

No we don't live together. That was his last text arranging to meet tomorrow morning at the station to go and visit his parents.

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AgnesBligg · 06/07/2012 23:44

What are you worrying about precisely? That he's had an accident? Or gone off you?

Not sure what to say, perhaps he's after a bit of me time (sorry naff term).

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:46

Both Agnes. It's just so unlike him when we talk all the time on days we don't see each other.

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Susieloo · 06/07/2012 23:47

Try not to panic he's probably either got no battery or no signal, my bfs phone was losing signal a few weeks ago for no reason and when I called it went straight to voicemail, it's such a horrible feeling, try not to panic too much I'm sure it's either battery or signal that's causing it to go to voicemail.

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OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:49

Why can't men be proactive and text/email/phone before it goes completely dead on battery (if that's why Sad) to say "battery's dying, bell you later" or something.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 06/07/2012 23:50

Sorry to be the one who says it but your post screams "needy"

If we say its flat battery you will say hes always got a charger to hand. If we say hes gone off you you will say "but he text love you earlier".

My advice is to chill out. Stop thinking about it and overanalysing.

Sorry for being harsh. I have been you so Im not judging

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:51

I've never said "he always has a charger to hand"!! Confused

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AgnesBligg · 06/07/2012 23:56

Try not to panic, things get in the way sometimes and doesn't mean he doesn't want you or that he's lying in a stairwell. Not trying to be funny.

Are you needy like Wannabe says do you think?

I've also been needy in my life so get that Smile.

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OhEmGee24 · 06/07/2012 23:58

I hope not! My ex and I split coz he was needy as fuck so hope I never get like that! Im just concerned that's all.

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AgnesBligg · 07/07/2012 00:02

In that case I think his phone isn't working/ turned off cos he's gone to the pub. And you'll see him y'know as planned.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/07/2012 00:05

if you were going to his parents, did you meet them already and know their address/number? if he didn't turn up tomorrow then I'd really be worried and won't be too embarassed to go and visit his parents.
it is horrible though to be worried all night now.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 07/07/2012 00:07

I didnt mean the charger thing in a literal way...

I just meant that from your op you sound in such a headspin you wouldnt be happy with any suggestion.

In my experience guys just dont think. How long have you been together? Have you met his parents before?

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 07/07/2012 00:13

Yeh met his parents before. We live in Surrey, they are down in Chichester hence having to actively plan train times etc. I don't know their precise address

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tattychicken · 07/07/2012 00:19

Battery/dropped in puddle/down loo... He will turn up fine, take a step back and make yourself chill.. Smile

NovackNGood · 07/07/2012 00:29

Since he has already told you you will meet tomorrow why are you constantly calling, texting him all day and night? Relax.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/07/2012 00:33

well in the worst scenario (he's not turned up) you could prob look up his parents address going by the surname etc. That's after trying his place first. Does he live far from you? It's probbly just the phone loss (or been stolen?) but it's good to have plans just in case, so that you feel a bit more in control and panic less.

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 07/07/2012 00:43

Just had a text ... "smashed. Love you".

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AgnesBligg · 07/07/2012 00:52

Ahh bin down the pub. I knew it Grin.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/07/2012 01:03

well tell him to let you know next time that he's going on a bender!

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 07/07/2012 01:11

Exactly!

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Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 07/07/2012 09:53

Sorry for sounding like a panicking bell end last night

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Susieloo · 07/07/2012 13:14

I would have been exactly the same in your situation and have been many times when I've not been able to get hold of someone, there's nothing worse x

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