Counselling?

[LovesPeace]

I have recently split from my ex, and I'm fine about the split, and being single.

My only problem is that I don't like me very much.

Is it worth going for some counselling (and how would I find someone) or should I just accept that maybe I don't like me because I'm not immensely likeable?

(I'd sort of not realised how much I don't like me until folks on another forum kept commenting, and now I don't know what to do).

What aspects of yourself do you not like?

I've had more than a years counselling to try and improve my self-esteem and like me better. I can now identify the reasons why I feel the way I do/did about myself and can list some positive things (which I certainly couldn't have done 6 months ago) but there is no magic wand and I'm not 'cured'. I'm at the point where I'm starting to find counselling frustrating now because I seem to be going round in circles with the reasons rather than any 'solutions'

I've ordered some books from amazon about improving confidence and self esteem. Have yet to read them but have a search and look at reader reviews.

Izzyizin - pretty much all of me.

I think I could live quite peacefully with myself if the planet were otherwise empty.

Yes counselling could help you re-build your self-esteem.

Have a look at the BACP website and there's a section called "Seeking A Therapist".

Sorry to bump this - I don't know if I can talk to someone face-to-face - is there any telephone counselling available?

There is all manor of counselling but face to face is best. Try counselling directories as well.

It's understandable that if your self worth is low, face to face counselling doesn't feel very comfortable. Good luck

What were the comments from 'folks on another forum' that's made you come to these conclusions about yourself?

Did they imply that you weren't 'likeable' or were they commenting on you seeming unconfident or diffident about yourself/your abilities/your 'likeability'?

Although we may not get much in the way of choice about who we work with and whether we like them/they like us, it is possible to order one's social life so that we only engage with those who enhance our lives by making us feel likeable.

It's also possible to live happily as a part or full-time hermit/recluse on this crowded planet.

Izzyizin - the people who have commented weren't being unpleasant to me at all - quite the opposite, as many of them were lovely - but I suppose they have made me see myself a bit more objectively.

Other people generally seem to like me, which is great, but I'm not so keen on myself. Maybe my self confidence has just taken a battering after my ex's behaviours?

After my last relationship, I am not sure I know where my 'boundaries' do or should lie, either so I probably need some help there too.