Has anyone made the wrong decision? Or think they have?

[GemsAngels]

Iv been separated 2 years, almost divorced. I have 3 DC.
When I look at photo's of the past, holidays, christmas time, or even when Im watching a tv programme or film, where a couple reunite or there is a happy ever after, I cry. This is only recent. Why do I do this? I know its not real but I feel quite empty.
I see families at the kids school, and my heart aches for my dc :(
I posted today on relationships, wondering if there are any good guys out there, and had a good response, which gives me hope but I do wonder if I had that already 2 years ago, and I threw it away?
How do I know if Im thinking Iv made the wrong choice? Or just missing what should of been? Do I even make sense?
I guess either way, theres not much I can do about it, but move forward. How?

You're grieving for what should've or could've been and for the loss of the future you thought you once had. That doesn't been it was the wrong decision. I had many doubts and wobbles after splitting from my exh. It was mainly though fear of the unknown or being alone.

The future is still unknown and I'm still alone but I'm remaining positive. I remember how unhappy I was in my marriage and I would never ever what to go back to that. I'm happier now than when I was married but it's taken quite a bit of counselling to get me to this point!

Thanks Faff Glad you are happy. I am a different person to who I was 2 years ago, but It took leaving my H to become this person.
Yes I guess its the unknown. I just wonder why I am feeling like this 2 years on.

You say it's only a recent feeling - its just a blip and it's natural. I know I'll have future blips and feelings of sadness but as long as its not a permanent feeling we'll be doing ok

hello again.. both you and your stbxh are probably different people now.. i have these feelings 3 yrs on.. now divorced. i get on with exh ok, but i could not go back. the decision is made.. you are moving forward now. how long were you together?

You haven't mentioned your ex once in your OP which makes me think you may want a partner - but not your ex. Therefore you made the right decision.

Faff I have had lots of blips, its only recent that my life in general on every other aspect is looking up after a 2 year emotional rollercoaster. I hope these blips are finally coming to an end. Im sure we both will be ok, its just hard sometimes isnt it?

Hello peppapiglet hope your a little happier today ;) Yes I guess we both are. In many ways he has proved why I wanted our marriage to end with his selfishness. He moved on very very quickly and didnt look back, that says alot right? He blames me but it takes 2 to make a marriage work. I suffered PND and blame alot of it on that, so cant help but blame myself sometimes. We were together 11 years.

ivanapoo Your right, thats why I wonder why Im feeling like I do sometimes as it was a very lonely marriage. Iv just heard so many horror stories and had bad experiences myself, that I think although my ExH was lets say emotionally constipated, he never cheated, drank his wages away, physically abused me. Maybe its time for me to meet someone nice for a change. Just cant find Mr Nice.

Sorry to hear that Gems. I have to say that I've only ever met Mr Nices myself - or should I say, only had relationships with Mr Nices. I don't know whether this is down to luck, or maybe it's because I'm only really attracted to people once I feel I know them so have started off as friends first. Also in most cases I've met them through mutual friends too. Of course this doesn't mean they're not bad apples though so I guess some of it is good fortune.

Sorry that's probably not much help but I want you to know there are a lot of Mr Nices out there.

My friend says to me just because he didnt drink, didnt abuse, and didnt cheat it doesnt mean to say I had to settle. Its just trying to tell myself this.
Thankyou ivanapoo thats good to hear :)