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Fast advice needed re separation and the house please!

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Netcurtainstwitching · 05/07/2012 20:53

H and I are separating. He volunteered to leave, then he changed his mind and said that he was going to stay put and would not be the one to break up the family.

He asked for my thoughts on the matter and I said I would let him know (that was last fri/sat).

Tonight I just told him that I still wanted us to separate and would be seeing a solicitor in the next week. He said he would talk to me when he got back from his work (he's out for another 20 min).

What are my legal rights? How much will this cost...he's going to do the teacher to pupil thing he does and tells me how much better he knows...how can I respond to what he says? I really do want us to be apart. At the same time I can only try to understand how hard it is to leave the family home and the children (dc 6 and 3 yrs old)

Help me keep my head straight please! Anyone?

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Dprince · 05/07/2012 21:09

You need to clue yourself up. Tell him you don't want to discuss it right now. The legal board here is good.
Is the house rented, mortgaged or owned? How long have you been married?

Xales · 05/07/2012 21:12

Your H and you are separating as such your marriage/family is already broken up. You still have the family that consists of you and your DC and he still has a family that consists of him and the DC. Your families just don't consist of each other as a direct part any more.

Get legal advise to know what your rights are fully. They should also give you a rough price before you agree to get them to work for you. Of course they can't give you a total price if your H decides to argue and obstruct everything.

He can tell you things as much as he wants.

Respond simply and be non committal 'I will let you know when I have discussed my options with the solicitor'.

Don't engage at all.

Take care of yourself and your DC.

Good luck!

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