Last night my niece came over (she is only a few years younger than me, as my sister is much older than I am, and so we are more like friends) and she told me all about this man she has been seeing. I know that she is an adult and that ultimately it is her decision, but I was a bit concerned.
He is 46, "totally skint" according to her as he lost his business, has been through a divorce and hates the ex wife with a passion, constantly calling her names and expecting my niece to laugh along with it, and has had a long string of girlfriends, all of whom have been 16 or around that age. He was very proud that one girlfriend who he cheated on at her 17th birthday party had parents younger than he is. He also told her that he had numerous affairs while married and engaged to other women, particularly with their friends or their family members.
He also announced certain incidents where he had been violent and also stuff like breaking into cash tills and phones. She sounded a bit worried about it, but apparently he is really into her and has only been kind so far.
I know how these things go and usually it ends up in a big abusive fall out, and I think she should just get out of the situation asap. But obviously I don't know him, only what she has told me.
Am I right, hearing alarm bells about the age thing?
It's a bit strange to brag about all your affairs and almost-crimes if you are trying to impress someone isn't it? Why would someone do that if he wants to look like a nice guy?
Just wondered what MNers think.