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Trial separation or the end?

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startlife · 05/07/2012 14:13

I'm just wondering if a trial separation would actually work for H & I. We (mostly me) have been very unhappy for a long period of time and we are now arguing on a regular basis and it is sadly having an impact on our young son.

We have tried counselling in the past and are currently at individual counselling which has confirmed to me that H hasn't or isn't capable of being emotional supportive. We have money worries and lots of other external pressures and I am due to start a new job in a few weeks.

I just can't give any more to H and I feel as if he is draining and negative, it's hard to explain but he doesn't 'lift' me in anyway. H is not a bad guy, he works hard, loves being a family man and is a hands on father but he's also closed and emotionally neglectful. He just can't see upset and he can't handle any emotional issues. I have suspected that he has AS.

We argued last night and I feel I am losing my mind so I know it's very unhealthy to continue but a separation does feel as if it's the end.
If you have had a separation did you get back together, does it ever really help?

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MissFaversam · 05/07/2012 14:27

I think a separation is a good idea, it will give you the space to see the woods from the trees so to speak. Then if it's over, it is. Better than being in unhappy limbo like you are.

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