new fella

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ive been seing my new fella for 4 months now ,ive not met his family yet hes met most of mine, we have fab times out together i have 3 kids only one at home ,hes told me yesterday hes not doing happy familys ,what does that mean sorry to be thick .

He's "not doing happy families"? Did you ask him what he means by that?
To me it would mean that he is just after a "no strings" shag fest. Not a longer term prospect.

no i did not ask him i think hes been hurt from his ex wife and her fam

Then I would think he is not able to have an adult relationship at the moment, and if that is what you want then I would run away from him, fast.

Sorry

no its ok ,im just confused as he says he really loves me.

He means he wants you but not your child and so would rather spend time with you alone than on family days out.
Don't make excuses for him by thinking that this attitude is because of his ex etc. He alone chooses to behave like this and he should know you come as a package x

hes just rang m saying his ex wife and her dd hst him very badly the 6 years he was with her hes seen my dcs the older 2 dont live at hime just ds2 whos 5 and has sn

• hurt

Don't let him use being hurt as an excuse to treat you badly. He's hoping now that you'll back off so as not to pressure him, that he can keep shagging you guilt free as he's told you that he's been hurt and can't give you more. Find someone you can have an adult relationship with.

Do you mean he just rang you out of the blue at 9am on a Weds morning to tell you that or were you already discussing it? Sorry a bit confused here.

It does sound like he's running scared and doesn't want a commitment,probably does have feelings for you but he's not ready for another serious relationship. My only advice if that's the case is to RUN because you're very likely to get hurt.

no i txt him and he rang me back, thanks for your advice ladys

He doesn't want to be part of you and your kids, which of course is his choice. Wave goodbye OP

Its up to you, if you are happy having a casual adult relationship with this man - and keep your child separate then do that. If you want a more serious relationship with possibly living together / marriage later on then forget him.

I agree, he doesn't want more than a casual relationship with you, no family obligations etc. Up to you whether you're happy with that.

Have to agree with the others, I'm afraid. Listen to what he is telling you and armed with the truth decide whether to carry on seeing him as a casual hook up. If you want something serious then find someone available for a full relationship.

Sorry he has said this.

Praps he only does 'unhappy families

he doesn't sound like a keeper, OP

unless you want to keep someone who tells you one thing, but demonstrates another

Four months and he's met 'most of' your family but you haven't met any of his? Where did you meet this man?

He doesn't 'do happy families' could mean he doesn't intend to have you meet any of his family members or be part of a 'couple' in anything other than your imagination.

Alternatively, he could he shaping up to dump you.

I would suggest you get in first. Tell him you 'don't do unhappy men as you wave him goodbye. '

tell him you "don't do nobheads" and smile sweetly as you dump his boring ass

I love AF on all threads. Completely right, tell him to fuck off.

Haha AnyFucker nice one!