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Yes, it's true, I am a twat

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imatwat · 03/07/2012 21:28

Been seeing someone off and on for a while. No real reason for us to mess about other than we're both busy, mature people and we just were drifting. Few weeks ago he said life was too short and we should move forward. I was just getting used to the idea of us being an item. I was on holiday last week and he contacted me most days and as he is away tomorrow for a few days, we were supposed to meet up tonight but he back-tracked on our arrangement. He was so fucking subtle about cancelling tonight. He asked to see me last night instead but I only got back into the UK last night and when I said I thought we were meeting Tuesday he wrote, "mm Tuesday - might be a bit ???" I then obliged by suggesting that we leave it and catch-up when he gets back. I'm really too understanding. I've text him to say have a lovely holiday and look forward to seeing him when he comes back and I've heard absolutely nothing back from him. I'm a twat because there is no unearthly reason why he couldn't have responded to my text unless he is otherwise engaged. I feel so disappointed in him, so disappointed.

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TheHappyHissy · 03/07/2012 21:33

You are not a twat.

he is. for bottling it with you.

You don't need this, this is not good enough tbh, and you know it.

Onwards and upwards!

imatwat · 03/07/2012 23:43

You are right Happyhissy, thank you.

I think I knew this deep down which is why we were coasting along before with no direction or commitment. I just will never understand men, for fucks sake! Why ask to move things on, chase me for weeks to show how interested he is and then go quiet. When I think back, he knew someone else asked me out and it's almost as if he wanted to firm up our relationship so he could keep me where he wanted me.

No matter, I've contacted the person that asked me out and he would still like to so bugger him and I hope it rains on his holiday or he gets sunburnt bollocks, Ha!

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TheHappyHissy · 04/07/2012 00:29

You have learnt something with this twat. You have learned that this relationship was not IT. You didn't understand this guy cos he was playing games. A good guy doesn't play games.

This bloke was a transition. A frog you had to kiss to meet a prince.... I know cos I had something similar happen to me... now well on the way to being totally loved up with new bloke!

When are you going out with the other bloke? Fingers crossed for you!

imatwat · 04/07/2012 20:22

Hello Happy, good for you! I've still heard nothing from him so all he will get from me when he returns is total silence. This has been going on for about a year but because we weren't commited with each other, I haven't been too bothered by it. But now I look back, it was always him that went silent and always him that came back. No longer though - I'm done!

The other guy I have known for about two months. I told him I was half seeing someone but a friendship has developed and we have met up a few times to enjoy mutual activities. We ramble and play tennis and stuff. Mr Silence knows this and also knew that he had asked me out on a date. If I'm honest, it was him I missed when I was on holiday which shocked me a little. I text him last night and we chatted and have agreed to go out this weekend. We do fun stuff together and we like and respect each other so that seems like a good basis to start something off on, doesn't it?

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foolonthehill · 04/07/2012 21:04

yes, so you win, hands down and Mr Silent is the Loser...... he he ha ha,

foolonthehill · 04/07/2012 21:05

love a happy ending, and a Happy Hissy...glad it's going well for you love!

TheHappyHissy · 04/07/2012 23:34

Ha ha Ima, that is EXACTLY how it was for me and Mr LovelyMan!

We both chatted, both had interesting dates, both told each other. His date then developed an acute form of sillybuggeritus and he asked me to email him again if ever I found myself single again.

Long story short, shortly after ringing the police on the 1st bloke for the first time, I emailed Mr LovelyMan, we chatted for a few days then set a date.

The rest is history, not a spark, but chemistry which has built and built. It's been 2m proper now, and still pretty innocent, but heating up nicely and I think he's lovely, he thinks i'm gorgeous Confused Grin

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