should i text my ex ??

[loganberry12]

you may have read other posts on here ive posted basically my ex left me and my children 4 months ago said there was no-one else although i have found out he had an emotional affair with someone at work nothing has come of it as she is pregnant and her and her boyfriend are still together, she's not interested in that way with my ex. Any way he had love bites on his neck a couple of weeks ago although he denies it saying it was marks from wood he lifted. So he is either seeing someone or had a one night stand either way i dont wont him involving my children in his affairs i just want him to spend time with them alone. I want to text him saying this but i know he will deny seeing anyone or just ignore the text. Should i text him or not??

Head held high and leave him to it. He'll deny it an he'll know you are pining for him he doesn't deserve any kind of adulation.

You need to heal and then in time start to move on, rest assured, you will find someone so much better. ((((hug))))

Loganberry, what Happy says - please keep your pride and leave him be. x

it just takes all my strength not to text him but i wont

I can't see how texting him could end positively for you, even if he said "well yes actually they are love bites" - you're separated now, the state of his neck flesh is his own business. (And it doesn't prove anything fishy was going on when you were together).

Very frustrating, though - I can see why you want to text.

i just dont want him involving the kids in it all when they are with him he should be spending time with them on his own i dont want her involved thats what i want to tell him

I thought 'no' just from reading the thread title. You need to accept he is free to be a twat if he wants to be, you can't stop him doing this, that or the other so just focus on your life and move on.

As for the kids, he is also free to have other people with him when with them, you need to separate the stuff you can influence from the stuff you can't.

i disagree that he is free to have other people with him when he has them. It is suppose to be quality time alone with them not with some old tart he's just met, he has all the other time to spend with her he should keep it separate.

But you've no evidence there even is a her, it could have been 'marks from wood' (although that is the lamest excuse I have ever heard). If it's a one night stand it's massively jumping the gun to be wondering if he has a girlfriend he wants to introduce the kids to.

All he will hear if you text is 'she still wants me back, that's why she's jealous'. Not 'hmm, what a good point loganberry has made about the fair treatment of our children during this difficult time'.

You need to accept that what he should do and what he does do are likely to be two different matters.

Regardless of whoever is around when he has contact with the dc, your only concern should be whether they are happy during the time they spend with him.

Unless he puts your dc at risk of harm, you have no right or authority to dictate terms to him and, by the same token, he has no right or authority to require you to restrict who your dc meet when they are with you.

Detach detach detach! Unfortunately you can't stop him so it'll just make you look like you're jealous.

well i stayed strong and didnt text havent text him for almost 2 weeks now which is a record for me i was obsessed and you know the funny thing is he is texting me now which i ignore and when he comes to collect the kids tries to start up a conversation with me like everythings normal which im not doing just handing over the kids and shutting the door. Funny how the tables turn though isnt it!!

Good for you, loganberry! Movin' on up, movin' on out ...

You are a strong fabulous powerful woman! Fuck off pathetic twunt!!

Well done