Arghhh. For whatever reason, I have agreed to let my thoroughly unpleasant parents come and 'drop off' my dd's birthday presents tomorrow. Last time they came here I was so wound up beforehand that I felt ill and ended up locking the front door in case they came early and walked straight in.
The visit was awful. They brought 6 carrier bags full of Easter eggs (in June - hadn't seen them for ages) and sat there telling the dc who each one was from. Most of them were allegedly from 'Uncle X' - the complete turd/my 'brother' who pushed my ds last year, if anyone remembers my other thread. There was lots of 'Uncle X sends you a GREAT BIG HUG'. As soon as my dc escaped went out to play, mother came to me and hissed "Did you hear? (your ds) said he sends Uncle X a big hug!" This was just to provoke me, as they then unleashed a tirade complete with finger jabbing in my face. I asked them to leave, they refused. I left them sitting there and left the room.
Since then, my grandfather has died and I saw them at the funeral. It was ghastly, but as Lovely Huggy Uncle X wasn't doing anything, I supported my parents at the graveside as I thought was only appropriate.
Now I am faced with a visit tomorrow and am feeling tense beyond belief. It is my dd's birthday and I should be focusing on her, but instead, I admit, I am petrified. Someone please talk me down - they will do the whole Uncle thing again, and also use my grandmother as ammunition, asking when I am coming to their house to see her. Answer being the 32nd of Nevertober, as Uncle X will be there. She is also pretty toxic and started a row on Xmas day.
I just need to stay calm - so difficult though. Any ideas?
Thanks for reading - am mostly offloading.