Dh said he wished I was dead

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We were arguing, my fault I wound him up and was laughing at him because he didn't understand what I was talking about. Anyway he shouted that he wishes I was dead & stormed off shouting it a second time. I got ds2 (ds1 is sleeping) and came out for a drive. What should I say, sorry or just go to bed? He's never said that b4 so maybe he means it? I'm prob being pathetic aren't I.

Well he was obviously deeply frustrated. And laughing at him sounds cruel.

I don't think saying that is ever appropriate to be honest, regardless of whether 'it's your fault and you wound him up'.
We're you laughing at him nastily, or with him in a jokey way?
I'm sorry you're having a rubbish Sunday evening

Do you usually insult his intelligence laugh at him if he doesn't immediately grasp what you're talking about?

Go home, apologise for taking the piss out of him, and resolve to calmly debate any issues of contention in future.

It was.

It was ment in a jokey way but it ended up winding him up. Will hang on a while & give him some space and go apologise when he's calmed.

Well laughing isn't nice exactly but neither is 'wishing someone dead'. It's extremely immature of him really.

It seems like a very over the top reaction to be honest, especially if you were being jokey rather than patronising.
How is your relationship generally?

I think it was one of those things that are said in anger and not really meant. Say you are sorry for laughing at him. It was a cruel thing to do, and cruel 'jokes' are never funny.

I think you both need to apologise and grow up tbh.