Overinvolved friend.

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I have a close friend. She is lovely but her love life like mine is a disastour. Trouble is she thinks she knows what is best for me.
I really like someone atm and I am happy in crushville. We went out last night and he wasn't out. I was v drunk. She hooked me up with a random bloke and told me he had a lot more in common with me than the other bloke,. He dosn't. I didn't shag him but we had a bit of a grope as I was drunk.
I chusked him out. I am just a bit fed up with my mate thinking she knows what is best for me when her own love life is a mess. She dosn't seem to be able to accept I like who I like. She also tends to meddle. If there is a bloke I like she will try and 'sort things out' by going to talk to him on my behalf without my permission. I am getting abit fed up with it tbh. She dosn't drink and I do and she knows how easy easily suggestible I am after a few bevvies. In want to stop drinking btw.

Reading that back we sound like a group of teens.

Oh God, it sounds like she thinks she's still in the playground; "my mate fancies your mate" sort of thing.

Have you tried being absolutely straight with her and telling her what you say in your OP?

You do, sorry :o why not cut back on the night's put with her for a while and just meet her during Tje day, or at night in one of your homes?

Night's put means nights out!

Im going to state the obvious. I think you are putting the blame on your friend for you groping another man. Your body, your mind, your choice to drink (knowing what you are like) and your choice to grope another man. Nobody else's fault.

I might have to be blunt. It's the only way. In so many ways she's a great mate. She took us all on a fab day out yesterday as she got some vouchers from groupon and drove us to a theme farm in her van. She is lovely but very vulnerable and I can't take her romantic advice seriously.

I do agree Tiptoptoe but on other occasions if she has known that I like another man she will interfere big time. once she befriended my ex on facebook knowing what an arse he was to me. I think she is insecure.

If you're incapable of deciding who you want to grope whilst drunk, then it's time to stop drinking. She didn't hold a gun to your head, did she? Why not just say no and refuse to let random men come home with you??

This is not your friend's fault - you're letting it happen.

How annoying.

Well you need to drink less so that you are in control, but you know that.

And i would stop telling her if you like someone.

I would also tell her to stop trying to set you up with people and to stop the "my mate likes you" business!

exactly - you can lead a horse to water but you can't make her grope

i doo need to sort out the drink issue.

the grope was fine btw. fun even!

over involved friend = she's insecure in her own life....

She is insecure. Bless her. She is going through some heavy shit atm and I think getting too involved is her way of distracting herself. I am checking into the brave babes battle bus as I hate my drinking. the bottom line is I'm unhappy and insecure and drink helps to aleviate some pain for an hour or so.