How soon is too soon

[OhEmGee24]

...to move in with your partner?

My bf and I have discussed it and want to get a place together. Due to various practicalities this wouldn't be until September when we'd have been together about 9 months. Both very happy and excited by the idea. But at a meal with girlfriends yesterday they seemed surprised and said its too soon and rushed. How soon is too soon?

If there are no kids involved, and no mortgage, then what does it matter to anyone else..

My bf practically moved into my flat the night we started seeing each other.. two months later when my tenancy was up, I moved in with him as he was living with his parents and we stayed there for a while until we found a flat together...

We have been together over 11 years now, and married for almost 10 of those. :)

I think it takes a good year to get to know someone - how fast they like to live life, what they're like when they're p'd off or angry, how they handle money, conflict, household affairs.

Everyone is different. I spent most nights with my now ex after the first few weeks and officially moved in after about 9 months. We were spending so much time together it was stupid to pay for 2 places. We may have split up several years later but I still count him as one of my friends and one of the people I trust most in the world. That is just me though! It depends a little on how much you are seeing him and how well you feel you know each others habits etc. Do you spend lots of nights together? Do you know if he leaves his towels on the floor? That sort of stuff

I would definitely not BUY anywhere that soon but what is the worst that can happen if it is not working? A friend of mine and her boyfriend moved in together then moved out again rapidly as they felt they had rushed things but carried on the relationship. A year later and they tried the move again and are still happily together several years later.

I was MARRIED within a year (still together 10 years later) so doesn't feel fast to me! I would echo the fact that you should not get too financially entangled for a while - just in case.

Renting together after nine months? Don't see why not. I wouldn't buy together, but IMO buying property with someone is a heck of a commitment to being in it for the long haul, unless you're both easily able to buy the other out in the event of a split. I would certainly want to try living with somebody for a few years before we bought. There's so much you can't know about a person until you've shared their living space every day.

Also depends how old you both are, TBH. If two 17-year-olds were planning to move in after a few months, I'd advise caution. But once people have been around the relationship block once or twice, I think they have a much better knowledge of themselves, what they need and what they'll put up with.

We were friends (not close though) for about 6 months before we got together and then we dated for two weeks. Then I dumped him because basically he was being too nice. I realised my error and we got back together a few days later. He never went home (except to pick up his stuff). We have now been married for 11 years and have 3 DC.

We won't buy, no, not to begin with anyway. We will rent. We are 24 and 30 so think we're old and ugly enough Both lived with exes so familiar with the setup, it feels right to me my friends have managed to cast a cloud over it though.

He moved in with me after 5 months which I thought was a bit quick but he had to get out of his rented place and it felt right at the time and i was dpending every night at his place anyway. we got married three years later. (getting divorced now after ten years together).

If it feels right then do it.