I have been with my OH for almost 2 and half years, we live together, my DD calls him Dad. Its all sounding good eh!!? I found out just after a year of being together that he had been messaging female friends on facebook, flirting with them and the messages were extremely rude, talking about sex and what they wanted to do to each other. He never met any of them. When we sat down and talked, he admitted its something he's done for years, the messaging things like that. Listening to him talk was like listening to an addict talk, like he craved the attention (he has really low self-esteem, hates his body etc) i'm not excusing what he done, we very nearly broke up because of it. He did try lying about the messages, so i sent the women messages myself lol. Then he finally came clean and told me everything. He deleted his facebook account, to show me he'd stop. I stayed as i love him, have never felt this way about anyone before. Then......maybe just under a year ago, i found out that he had been watching porn. This alone, I wouldn't have liked, but with the lying and messaging previously, it really upset me and when i asked him about it, he lied. Its the lying thats hurt the most. He promised he'd never do it again, i explained why it had upset me so much, that i saw it as he was still looking at other women, and that he had lied to me (oh by the way, we dont' have sex too often, he has a massive confidence problem) So again, i gave him another chance. Then a few months back, i found out he had still been looking at porn! Again he lied, telling me that it was just pop ups on his phone, i'm not stupid, for the link to be there on his phone, he's clicked on it, if it were a 'pop up' there would be no record of it. So again, for the 3rd time, we nearly broke up. I've told him that this really is his last chance, that i will make myself end it, no matter how hard it is, if it happens again. I'm really hoping i can do that, to end the relationship if it happens again. Hope i have the strength to do it. My DD loves him just like a daddy, which onlly makes it harder.
Anyway, the advice that i need........he has been showing interest in joining twitter, because i'm on it and you can follow famous people/bands etc. This though filled me with dread as i know you can send private messages on there. So am i being silly for not wanting him to, or should i let him have a bit of line so to speak. The trust with us, where women are concerned is completely broken.