Hello all.
I'm not sure what this is but it niggles me. My dP of 2 years does the following
He doesn't do what he says he will do. For instance if he phones me early in the evening, he will always say "I'll phone you later, say 930" and he never does. He never makes plans. Full stop. Thats not just with me. He wants to go away with me for the weekend. So we decided that we could go to the lakes next weekend camping. I asked how definite is this and he replied 100%. Then he gets a call from a friend asking if we want to go to Bath for the weekend. So now it's all in the air again. Apparently we are waiting to see what the weather is like. I've said he needs to let his friend know sooner rather than later but I know he won't.
It's all about him. He works the hardest, he works the longest hours, according to him. He will sometimes belittle the work I do.
He will emotionally cut me off if the going gets tough. I get no emotional support. He tells me I am emotionally cold. I don't think I am. Yet he can be Very affectionate.
He tells me he loves me more than words can say. Yet he offers little in the way of reassurance or empathy.
When we have sex I sometimes feel like an object.
He has no relationship with his family, has been single for 10 years before meeting me and in that time had a succession of fleeting, temporary relationships. He doesn't have close friends.
He is dedicated to his 2 young children and sees them every weekend.
Yet I love him. We have fun, laughs, affection..etc. emotionally though he seems to be stuck somewhere else.
I often feel insecure and I've no idea how to start with him. I've tried to talk about how I feel but he tells me I'm just being silly.