My fiance is in the armed forces, currently away on a course but home weekends. I found out last night that he met up with a single ex-girlfrend on Monday night (she lives in the area where he is on course). He told me he went to the bar on site for a few drinks. He left his facebook account logged in on the home computer and I found messages going to and fro. Calling each other 'honey' and 'babe'. 'Cant wait to meet up with you', etc etc. I have never heard him call anyone else honey or babe apart from me.
I rang last night to confront him. I gave him plenty of opportunity to come clean, asking if he had a late night the previous night, many people at the bar etc. Then I asked him outright 'Did you have a good time with X last night?'. He said 'What do you mean', I asked again he answered 'What are you talking about'. I called him a bastard and hung up.
Within 5 minutes the messages on facebook were deleted, however I took screen prints so I am one step ahead!
He rang me and swears on our kids life that it was an innocent catch up, and that her 'boyfriend' appeared after an hour or so to take her home (facebook status is single). But why would he be so sneaky and not tell me he was meeting her if there is nothing to hide. I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with him having girl 'friends' but not telling me has made me wonder could this have progressed if I hadn't found the messages?
I have looked through her profile and she is very overly sexual with all her posts, and appears to be very 'up for it'.
I feel totally betrayed and distraught. We have been together 7 years, we are engaged have a DS 2 and DD 9 (mine from a previous relationship). Healthy sex life and what I thought was a trusting relationship.
But after being hit in the face with cold hard evidence, I cannot trust him. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and stamped on and I don't know what to believe anymore. He is coming home on Friday and I don't know what to do. He keeps telling me he loves me and would never do anything to jeopardise what we have together.
But why lie to my face if it was an innocent 'catch up'? I am going out of my mind and would appreciate some advice. :(