He stopped texting!

[ScoobyDoo2012]

Ok sorry this is a bit long winded but here we go.

I met someone last week and we have been texting constantly since. I went to his and we just talked, he texted as soon as i'd left saying he fancied me a lot. Our texts continued, plans to meet again, texts became sexual. I expressed concern he was only after 1 thing which I stated I wasn't. He said he wasn't either and said he's very honest about what he wants- he wants to date.

He was speaking of meeting and hinted along sexual lines and I said it was "time of month" (true). He said when can we meet. I said does he only want to meet when "it's" finished i.e. doesn't want to meet for non sexual reasons (I was half teasing, maybe not obviously enough). He texted me saying "You're really sceptical of me aren't you"... To which I replied "I've just made some really bad choices in the past!", he said "oh, ok." I responded "What?!" and he just has not replied. This was 10am this morning. I'm not needy but this is really strange as he has been texting constantly all week.

Did I do something wrong?! Am I over-reacting?! Should I text him!? I feel like a school girl with a crush!

He wanted a fuck and is getting the feeling it won't be that easy with you so he has stopped bothering :( sorry.
Next time if you want more than a fuck try to remain flirty on the right side of sexual until you have had at least one proper date!

I agree with ErikNorseman, seems he wanted a fuck, tried the old 'I want more than that' yet still managed to turn it sexual...best rid of if that is not what you're looking for.

Ughhh, fucking men!! Feel pretty shit now- thank god i didn't sleep with him.

Everytime it gets sexual before a date or meeting, it just makes me think 'Urgh' and I'm on to the next one ;)

Yep got to agree only looking for sex sorry, but what you will learn from this is not to go there again when a man so quickly mentions sex when you have only
met them once, beware the sexting guy!,but good luck for when you do meet that someone who would not rush in where fools dare to tread.

I feel really shit considering we were only texting for a week!

Why the hell would you tell him you had your period? Why was that relevant ??

He wanted me to come and stay the night... I believed him when he said he wanted to date and so I would have done had it not been for period.

Why are relationships conducted through text now? Why do you not speak to each other?!

Ok but if a guy invites you to stay the night before you are ready to have sex you politely decline, you don't make excuses about having your period!
I'm sorry to be harsh but you set yourself up a little bit by crossing the boundaries, thereby inviting feckless shag seeker to pursue you then lose interest. I'm the first person to advocate casual sex if that's what you want, but if you want a relationship there needs to be more getting to know each other before it gets sexual.

Ah don't feel shit, you'd feel a whole lot worse had you done the deed as it were. Take it as a lesson learned, your 'twat' radar has increased it's range, and get back into dating.

No I genuinely am on my period!

He told me he wanted to date- I thought great me too. in that case, I would have liked to stay the night but couldn't because I really do have period.

He asked me when I wasn't so we could meet- I wasn't sure if he meant he didn't want to see one another until my period had stopped, which to me would mean he isn't interested in dating- such as going out for dinner or w/e- and just sex.

In which case- I am not interested. I would like to date- not a relationship at this point.

However due to his lack of response, i was dissapointed as was hoping for someone to enjoy my time with and date.

I don't think I am explaining this well.

I just think that by discussing your periods you were basically saying 'sorry I can't shag you just now' why would you say that to someone who wanted a date? And why would someone who wanted to
'date' immediately ask if he could stay the night?

You met someone last week and you 'went to his'.

Did you have a date before you went to his place or was your first date at his place?

I'm at a loss to understand why you couldn't have a date with him - by which I mean cinema/theatre/meal/drink etc - and stay over at his place for the night even though you have a period.

Do you usually avoid going out or staying anywhere other your own home for umpteen days a month?

I'm with ErikNorseman. He was after shaggus immediatus..

Do NOT 'go to his' unless you're up for a shag! Make sure they take you on a proper date.

Definition of a date is different for some men than women I have learnt. Where women see it as going out, doing stuff, and getting to know time - seems reasonable ? Some men see it as as a def shag at the end. Somehow date becomes I'm important enough to them to get a shag, whereas a meet is less certain for them - I know? Go figure!! Sad but true.

hmm I think the key here was the 'I really fancy you' text, as soon as you'd left. He was hoping that would tempt you to go back ...
guys who are keen but want more than a shag would text the next day or the day after with something like ' i really enjoyed your company and fancy you like mad'...they wouldn't just make it about your physical attributes.

JMO...

If you wanted to date him, what did you period have to do with anything.
In all probability he just wanted a shag. Although the fact that you keep pushing for reassurance may have also put him off.

Moral of the story is... if you wanted to be treated respectfully and weed out the wankers, don't join in with sexting and keep the convo above the waist.

He's a tool but to be honest you gave him wrong signals. Why exchange sexual texts, why mention period in terms of the meet up and why, oh why you wanted to stay the night with him on the first date and told him so?! I don't think you know what you're doing re dating and should refrain till you brush up on health and safety rules.