Lala?

[Scottishsummer]

Does anyone know whether Lala has taken down her thread? How she is? If/where she has gone?

Another one delurking. Have read your posts from the start and didn't give any advice as others are so much better placed than I am. I often think about you and hope your ok. I don't know the quiet place either but just wanted to add my support xx

Support added. Just imagine if you could see all these people rooting you on in one place. It brings a lump to my throat. As a mum of twins plus another myself I am amazed at how you cope Lala. All the best xxx

Lala, I've been following your posts since the very beginning and have been totally awestruck by your ability to cope under such circumstances.
I wish both you and your beautiful DC's all the very best and truly hope that all is well. xxx

Thanks everyone. Am feeling pretty crappy today but the deed is done . Thankyou for your support, it means a lot.

Another delurker! Hope all is well !

I hope everything works out well for you Lala and you go in to pastures new for a happy life with your dcs-you deserve it and we are all rooting for you xx

Well done lala, I've been reading your thread from the beginning but did t ever feel I had anything helpful to add! I spoke to you a couple of times on the sleep training thread though. Just to say that even though im sure you do feel pretty shitty now but you have made an incredibly brave decision and you have definitely done the right thing for your lovely babies!

We are all so so proud of you. Well done xx

well done lala ...you really are amazing . hope you are safe and have rl support. xx

So so proud of you Lala! What an example for your DC.

The hardest part is over. In a year you'll look back and wonder if that was even your life. You're going to be so happy now. Massive cuddles the grin on my face defeats this little guy hands down!

xxx

Lala you are doing brill...its hard and shitty but remember your reasons and all the noises about social services, your last thread may have disappeared but what you wrote stood out in the eyes of so many. YOU ARE A FAB WOMAN AND MOTHER!!!!xx

You have done so amazingly. I wouldn't be surprised if you crash emotionally and physically. It will get better in time tho I promise. My situation wasn't like yours but I have been in dark places caused by a tit of a husband, so I know it's possible to get there in the end. Thinking of you loads today and hoping you are ok.

Take care.

well done Lala hope you and your DC's are now safe

Long time lurker routing for lala. But also no idea where the quiet place is. Clearly that is the point but can anyone point me in the right direction?

Another one here who doesn't know where "the quiet place" is. But it doesn't matter. Just very relieved that you and your DCs are safe Lala.

It's going to be tricky at first while you all adjust. But stay strong and every time someone in RL says "let me know if I can help at all", immediately put a date in their diary to look after the DCs for an hour while you go shopping/ get your hair done/ just have a quick coffee with a friend etc. You don't have to be Superwoman, so accept any offers of help at all!

I'm nine years further down the line than you and, hard though it was, I absolutely know I made the right decision for my DCs. They've turned out great! I can't tell you how many times I have random strangers complimenting me on what lovely, polite, helpful DCs I have. I predict great things for you and your family!

x

De-lurking to say I'm so pleased Lala! I am full of admiration for how you've cared for 3 little ones single-handedly and how you have acted now to protect them. Take care of yourself x

Oh Lala, I am so pleased to hear that you are safe and it is done.

I posted a few times on your thread, and I have been worrying about you when I realised that your other thread had disappeared from 'threads I am on'.

I am another who doesn't know where the quiet place is, but it doesn't matter. I hope that you have gathered all the lovely people on that thread who have expertise in this area to help you.

I don't suppose I can be much use to you really, but if you ever find yourself living or staying or visiting in SE London and need any help, PM me. I would be very proud to lend a hand. My DD's are 3 and 1, so they could all play together.

You are so strong, and you have come so far. The rest of your life is ahead of you with your wonderful, adored children.

Lala, so pleased I found this thread - got back from a week away and saw the last one had been deleted, and was so worried about you!

Please keep posting, either here or you-know-where - you have so many people rooting for you and thinking about you and wanting to support you in any way they can. We're also here just to vent at, so use us!

Another person here rooting you on.

Go Lala! You know how you listened to all the people in RL who said you're wedding was so lovely? (I know I shouldn't mention your wedding right now, BUT now remember all our MN voices and those in RL who are urging you to move on. You are doing the right thing.
I posted a few weeks ago about my sister in a similar unhealthy relationship; she is coming over in a few weeks and I feel really scared to listen to her on the phone and how much she is co-erced by him. I'm so glad you've got away and your DC too.

x

Hi. Beakey this is so hard. I am stopping myself right now from running downstairs and begging him to change. Your sister will need to do it in her own time. I find it very strange that 3 months or so ago I was adamant in the pit of my stomach it was over and yet I couldn't find the words to do it.
I don't feel that certainty now and yet I am doing it and it's feeling 'righter' today than yesterday. I held my ground tonight by keeping calm, asking him not to speak and reiterating I wanted him to move out.
I said he had to go for the safety of the dc. I said I had a pipedream that he would move out, stop drinking, sort his anger and we would be able to work things out. He said I was searching for a 'dream man' who didn't exist.
I need to listen to him, don't I?!

Your strength amazes me lala. I wish I could help you out somehow, even just making you a brew and piece of cake. I'm in Derbyshire and would gladly help you out if you were anywhere nearby.

You are being so strong Lala & we are all still rooting for you. This is probably one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do in your life. Do listen to him - he is telling you than he cannot be what you & the DCs need him to be - he is so arrogant he's not even prepared to try to be that person for you, to save your marriage. I'm in Yorkshire if that's any good....x

Thankyou both of you. And thanks for your offers of RL support :) I will yell if my travels take me there!!
This is very hard.