new boyfriend

[ilovesprouts]

hi just been seeing my new man over 4 months and today when we was having sex i called out my ex dh name my new bf was not happy as you can imagine ,ex means nothing to me at all why the hell did i say hes name ,i hate my self now :(

There was a recent thread just like yours.

Pavlov's reflex.

Yea it's habit. I can see why he's not happy, but really so many people do it. Even years later. I had been split with my ex for a couple of years, no contact, no feelings there and I still said his name by accident to my new fella. Mine might be worse though I said it after saying 'I love you' it was like sense memory or something as me and my ex said it a LOT.

Try not to beat yourself up too much and explain to your current fella it was a reflex, nothing to worry about. Hopefully he will understand.

Don't hate yourself. Don't know how long you were with your ex but we can all make a mistake and I'm sure you apologised to the new b/f straight away. He should be able to forgive and forget . Maybe resist the temptation to call anything out in future? Or do what I do and call them all by the same generic endearment

i was with ,my ex dh for 5 years ,i could see how much i hurt my new boy friend though :(

He may be hurt but, if he's got any sense, he won't make this into a big deal. You've apologised, you feel bad, and he should be able to see it for what it is - a slip of the tongue. Please tell me he isn't sulking.

no we are ok i sobbed my eyes out and he hugged me ,so i said i will put a sock in my mouth next time .

Careful with that sock, you might both get to the pervy point where you can't shag without it.

[GRIN].