Did something very stupid

[sadandlonely]

I'll try not to make this too long, but basically a few weeks ago after a stupid amount of alcohol I did something incredibly stupid. I slept with my friends dh. It was only once and although I know why I did it that's not really important.

My friend now knows, and obviously now hates me. For very good reason too. This one stupid mistake has had such an impact all round. Although my dh will never find out, all our friendships will be ruined. We can no longer be friends with them. The things we had planned will never happen. I am at rock bottom, and yes I know it's nothing to how my now ex-friend feels. Can we move on? I desperately want to get all our firendships back. That's more important to me than anything.

Or have I f*** it up completely?

Please feel free to flame me. It's what I deserve.

Really want to know.If you care so much about your friend and she is so wonderful and you will miss her why shag her husband?.How can you care?I can't work it out.

Dumbledore - yes you're right it does feel like a bereavement. I guess it is. And yes I must try and be dignified about it.

1974 - yes that's how it happened, with respective spouses close by. And yes staying late was common place. And yes very irresponsible.

What am I looking for here? Just to offload I guess. I haven;t anyone else I can talk to about this and I'm in pieces. Thought getting it down on pc and seeing what others had to say might help. It is actually - just beginning to realise what a good person and dignified ex-friend is.

I was gutted when an ex friend of mine slepped with an almost ex p of mine. IMO, you cannot get that friendship back, not like it was, you dont deserve it.

Bugsy - yes big effort needed re my marriage. But not feeling strong right now.

Overdraft. I don't know why I did. In the heat of the moment I jyst didn't think about anyone but myself. None of it realy makes sense. I don;t think it really hit me how much her friendshio meant until now.

I don't want to judge you but I have been on the recieving end of a situation the same as this.I am loyal to people that are friends.I have thought long and hard and it has ben very painful just thinking what can make a friend do that to you.Her husband flirted around me to but I would never go there.Belive me i blamed my H formost.To be honest i miss the friendship we had with this couple and I don't hate her but I never want to see her again.
Think you should just give them space and move on now.

Overdraft I'm so sorry this happened to you. Yes I must move on I know. We all must. I guess like a lot of things I just didn't realise how important our friendships were until I'd lost them.

This has or will affect so many people - including our kids and I am distraught at how much pain I've caused. I want to put things right but know I can't.

S&L, you realise that you have made an awful mistake but you CAN put some things right. You can't undo what happened but you do still have the power to do good things with your own marriage. I'm sure you feel like the biggest pile of doodoo right now, but if you wallow in self pity that doesn't achieve anything, it is just being self-indulgent.
Get some counselling, go & see a marriage guidance bureau (on your own if necessary), but take some steps to show yourself that you are going to turn this situation around. You will feel so much better for it.