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abuse from ex MIL

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umbrella · 25/06/2012 21:20

so today i dropped of the kids at his, its his day but since hes at work all day and i no longer work on a monday he agreed that i could pick them up for a few hours every monday. As doon as i moved out he moved my ex mum in law in. First time she saw me after split (over year ago) she told my then 3 yo son i didnt love him!
over the year she usually hides when i do the drop of it suits me fine but has resorted to telling my ex i slam the doors am rude to her etc I am not shes never there for me to be rude to since shes hiding but he listens to her....
She has also called my mum to try and convince her to convince me to go home tried the same with my dad etc.
Couple of months ago she went back to her home country and posted back to my mother photos of me she had in her house.
Today she saw my mum with me in the car she came out and started saying to her im a bad mother im messing up my kids lives i should sacrifice myself for them im rubbish etc etc i need to come home to my husband.
Its really starting to wear me down my boys are adjusted ars they can i love them to death and the time spent with each parent is as much as possible shes wearing me down how would you all cope?

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MushroomSoup · 25/06/2012 23:05

I would smile at her sweetly and walk away. This is a mad old bat who means absolutely nothing to you. You are giving her way too much power and importance.

Imagine yourself stood at the top of a mountain with the DCs. Imagine her, right down at the bottom, stamping and shouting and waving her arms about. How tiny she is down there! You can't even hear what's she's saying! Doesn't she look silly?! She is nothing to you.

The DCs will only be upset by her if you are upset by her. So take no bloody notice. She is so far down the mountain you can't hear her anyway! When she says you are a bad mother, your response should be a smile. Who gives a flying fuck what she thinks?! Don't give her the power. Let her squeak away at the bottom of the mountain, way way way down beneath your feet. Silly old cow.

MushroomSoup · 25/06/2012 23:06

She's the silly old cow, not you OP!

umbrella · 25/06/2012 23:08

aww thanks mushroomsoup :)

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