Do opposites attract?

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There's this guy I really fancy and I'm pretty sure that he fancies me too as we were chatting for ages at a local club the other night. Trouble is he is really sporty and I'm not although I do exercise. He seems like a lovely guy though and it hasn't put me off. He's fit!

I meant to ask do you think it matters if there is a difference in interests? I am not anti- sport I am just shit at it!

I don't think it will cause issues in itself, but you being worried about it might. Give him a chance and start some exercise if you want to... Don't worry about not being good at it. Most importantly, relax, get to know him and have a good time.

Oh, sorry, just read again and you do exercise, so don't worry at all, there's plenty of other things you can share. Sometimes having a hobby or interest of your own can help a relationship. Go for it :)

I think it's just because I felt bad for being shit at sport at school and I was judged for being shit at it although I am pretty sure that he is not like that!

Is it just the sporty bit that's bothering you?

My ex and I (as time went on) had fewer and fewer interests and it bothered me lots. I've recently met someone who much more similar to me and it's the biggest relief.

But that's just me; I'm the kind of person who feels the need to be able to do things together. Other couples are a lot more independent within a relationship.

There can't be any harm in giving it a go and seeing how you both feel.

I was shit at sports too at school but I think sometimes its more about self esteem and how competitive you are. If he's really confident and competitive and you're not... It could be tricky... But you won't know unless you give it a go.

I know this sounds stupid but I don't feel good enough for hi. He's so athletic, confident and georeous but we locked eyes for ages then he came up to me and chatted for ages. I kissed him on the cheek but no snogs.

him I mean

Not feeling good enough for him will cause issues. You are good enough for him, he likes you, let him decide that. Please relax and enjoy. Low self esteem is only destructive in relationships.

I think it's more about what you want together that matters (probably not something you'll be talking about now!!). My dh is v sporty and needs to go running etc. I hate running. I used to play tennis and swim but haven't for the last 5-10 years. But he needs to do his running thing and I like reading.

But what I've found more important is that our values are similar. So in terms of what we want and aspire for ourselves, our kids etc. we feel that saving money is a good thing (as opposed to his brother who spends as he earns for eg). Having similar type values are important. I can't for a moment think how difficult a relationship would be for us if say his attitude towards money was like his brother's.

Good luck. Relax!!

don't think his being sporty would matter unless it threatens to take over his social life