Making an exit plan

[GingerBeer1234]

So after yet another hideous, painful, miserable weekend with DH, I think I've got to try and extricate myself from the marriage.

I have a 14 month old DS, and things won't be very easy.

I jsut want to know (having read about people making 2 year plans to get away in another thread), what sorts of things do you need to think about when planning to leave?

Saving money, obviously. And finances. How to split up assets (not that we have much, just the house) But what else? How do you prepare? and how do you not go mad in the meantime?

I don't think I can wait 2 years - I'm not that cunning or strategic unfortunately - but I can't just leave overnight.

Thanks for any advice.

I'm sorry you are going through this, Ginger. I have not read that other thread but I don't see much point in waiting 2 years... that's two years of your life. Why would you want to spend it like that? If you are certain you need to get out then I would say the sooner the better.

Go to CAB and ask advice
Open a new banks account in your own name - unless you already have your own
Begin putting money away
Make sure you have the child benefit going into your own account
Keep yours and your 14 months old passports separately, and begin to gather important documents
See a solicitor for advice - most do free half an hour . This will be invaluable.

Sorry , someone will more knowledgeable will come along soon! But don't despair - though some people have 2 year plans, theres no reason you couldn't go sooner. It just depends on how strong and focused you are. Good luck

Keepcalm is right. Also, call WA, they're fantastic if you need any help. Make a plan, but one that is flexible, just in case. Good luck.