Stupid BIL

[jenk1]

I have posted before about my sister and her boyfriend, well she,s at it again.
My other sister phoned me before to tell me that S has thrown all her boyfriends clothes out of the window and split up with him, "she was shouting you are a scrounger, i have a new name for you Spongebob"

Then she told my sister that he does nothing but slag me and dh and other sister and her fiance off, He doesnt work, he has a degree and says that warehouse/office work is beneath him, so he sits at home with my sister scrounging off her, he is an absolute control freak, he doesnt like any of us going round, he stands too near and invades our body space and to top it all he has told sister "you want me to be like jenk1 and dh and other sister and dp, well i dont bend over and be anyones bitch like they do"

Why does she tell us these things?

She will take him back and then start being funny with us, she doesnt come and see my kids anymore or phone, she only comes round when she has a relationship problem.

I dont know what to do, would really appreciate advise.

Thanks

sounds like a complete nightmare. I think that you/your sis need to try to put a united front to say that you don't want to know what nasty stuff he says about you. other than that i think you just have to hope she seem sense one day and splits up with him, if he is as bad as described, and keep a distance, but not completely estrange yourself from him in the meantime. If he is a control freak then it will be playing into his hands if you don't have anything more to do with her because of him.

other than that all I can think of is to encourage her to look at Women's Aid website/speak to Women's Aid - maybe when she is in one of her bad patches with him, she would be more receptive to doing this?

Ireally dont get her though, she has problems she was seeing a counsellor but stopped suddenly.
Every man she has been with she has called the police on/had them locked up and always says that she is being beaten up by them.

She seems to get a kick out of all the drama and has in the past had half the street out watching the latest installment, every time she gets with a partner she completely cuts off from her family and discourages visitors then when she has a problem expects us all to pick up the peices, i hope i dont sound harsh because i dont mean too but we have all helped her so much over the years that now we dont get surprised by anything but i dont understand why she tells us what he calls us.