Why would he be interested?

[Pickles77]

Why would a friend of a long long long time who is absolutely lovely now be interested in
Looking after/ looking out/ pursuing for a pregnant girl whose just been fced over by the guy that got her pregnant? Is it just me that's confused?

Maybe this friend feels sorry for the girl? Likes them?

I'm just a bit sceptical?

Maybe he enjoys being with her. Maybe she appeals to his protective instincts.

Whatever, it's his life and his right to form relationships with whoever he chooses.

If you want to stay friends with him you're best advised to keep any reservations you may have about his relationships with others to yourself.

Urm well it's me... That's all. Im just very untrusting and broken at the minute...

I know 2 couples who got together like this.

Even though he's at the other end of the country?

I get why you feel like that. Maybe just continue as friends and let things take its natural course. Given the situation and the fact that you are pg, its not surprising you are sceptical.

Sounds like he's been interested for a long time and you've suddenly become available?

Although recently ended, Seal & Heidi Klum's relationship began when she was pg with another man's child

Thanks I have liked him for a long time and Just am scared now.
Just you know I have baggage now etc... But he seems genuinely concerned about my welfare x

Random mess yeah that's what it's like? He just had a bit of reputation in the past?

Hmm has he grown up and is ready to settle down?

I think you need to be brave and ask him outright?

Go with your gut instincts. If you feel it's odd then don't go there, especially if you're still feeling raw from the break up, it's unlikely you're ready to date again yet.

You don't know what his intentions are - he might have been interested for a long time and now you're single, he might feel worried about you and want to help, but equally you're in a very vulnerable position and some people do see that as an opportunity to exploit, sadly :(

If you like him as a person then fair enough to allow him to support you as a friend, but if you don't feel comfortable then remember you don't have to accept help from anyone, no matter how lovely and well meaning they are.

Thanks guys feel a bit more at ease now

I think you're right to be wary, Pickles. I wouldn't chase him away if you like him, but you need some time and space to get over what's happened and it would be easy to fall for someone who said and did the right things when you're in the position of being pregnant and not only worrying about your own future but your child's as well, and I don't know but I'd imagine there are hormones produced in pregnancy which make people want to settle down.

Just be v cautious and take anything slowly, you need some time to find yourself.

Pickles Hello again!
Can you accept his support as a friend with a view to seeing what happens/developes in the future when you life is more steady and settled and you feel more like you again? (Only if of course as you say you have always liked him.)
He's good friend right? so you should be able to talk to him openly and tell him your fears without totally pushing him away. Hopefully anyway.
It really could be that he cares every much for you but you have been in a relationship before.
YOu could def do with the support of a good friend right now but do without any more stress!
good luck lady!

That sounds great advice guys, I just didn't know whether to just ignore it etc... It shouldn't be too difficult to find out his intentions as he's the other end of the country ATM and I think it's easier to talk not face to face. Plus I'm not worrying about it as I'm not my main priority at the minute :) my bump is it's just nice to be thought of as attractive as my self esteem is on the floor ATM. Thanks guys

He's interested because he's liked you for years, he's a lovely bloke, and he knows you need some extra support in life now so he's giving it. Don't look for hidden motives, he's doing what friends should do.

Pickles your life is like a soap opera. You'd give eastenders a run for their money :) I echo what mrswee has said. All i can say is take your time and enjoy a good friendship and see how things pan out. As the old saying goes, whats meant for you won't pass you by. Hope you doing ok.

Thanks guys.
cassieo it's so good I don't believe in fairytales anymore isn't it? Hope your well!

Your fairytale will creep up on you someday when you least expect it. I'm good thanks. Preperations for a night out underway although the couch and pjs also look very inviting.

We can dream I suppose my sofa and a takeaway was very appealing! ;)

Hey pickles - I was about to suggest it was me he was pursuing - oops! I can so relate to this. I am also pg and recently separated - EA stuff. I also have a friend of about 8 years pursuing me like there's no tomorrow. I am flattered but really as confused as you! Argh so much weirdness!

Ahhh scared that's exactly my position. Very very confusing isnt it?!

Yes, to the point where I'm almost interrogating him about it - that will put him off eventually as I can't help myself.
With me it did sort of come from nowhere - actually I think it took a lot for him to make a move like that. I got married during our friendship - apparently he doesn't want to miss the window again. I'm half convinced.

I am south west he is midlands though we lived close by back in the day. Like you said - easier than face to face really but still feels like a big deal emotionally.

What are you going to do?