protecting children and self from porn induced separation

[Pilotbear]

partner using porn daily online and dvds and searching causual sex sites(can't confirm if sleeping around, only fantasy, but?) when responsible for kids and I was home. Attempt to discuss caused aggressively putting me down, my issue ie insecure, bottomless pit for love bitch etc. He has moved out at my request almost a week ago and we haven't spoken except to text re access for kids. He has requested a longer visit mon and I have asked him to agree not to use porn while responsible for kids as a condition. No response from him. Am I being paranoid? do I allow visit anyway. Do I have any right not to? He is otherwise a good dad and I think the risk is low, but for hoped for agreement to rebuild some trust, protect boys and reduce my anxiety levels. 2 boys 4 and 8 Also will really struggle finacially if we separate permantly but think his addiction and treatment of me exceed my coping skills. Trying to organise conselling, but don't know what to do

Hope you find someone as well as services who are able to help you.

His addiction must be that bad for him to refuse to agree not to use porn while looking after the kids - this proves that you did the right thing telling him to leave.

You really need to get proper legal advice, and a proper legal contact agreement.
I'm not sure where you are, but him using pornography when in lone charge of the children must surely be seen as putting them in danger as either: a) they could just wander in (even if at night after a bad dream) and be exposed to pornography; OR b) they cannot access him at certain times because he locks the door. Never mind that if he is using pornography while they are there, he is going to be "distracted" from their care; cf with leaving them alone while popping to the shops.

Can you set up a camera and film him? One with audio so it would be clear the children were present in some other part of the house or even in the same room? Or maybe two, one for the computer room and one for the room where the DCs normally play. You can get nanny cams for relatively little.