bf with a low sex drive, finding it hard!

[fedupwithlife]

If you met my bf he comes across as a sociable, upbeat, likes a banter sexy man, and he can be all those things, but his sex drive appears to be so low compared to other men I have ever been in a relationship with. He has always been pretty selfish in the bedroom department expecting me to give most of the pleasure, and to be honest I got fed up, so have stopped taking the initiative now. We have discussed it he just says his drive is low at the moment and he doesn't know why, its so frustrating, he did say maybe if I was to wear something nice at bed time it might help, so I got something nice out last night, because I didn't want to put it on and then look stupid if he didn't want it, I asked if he would like me to put it on. his reply 'er tomorrow' I said oh u not in the mood then 'well I've just eaten pizza' he had about an hour before but so what. Anyway I felt really down about it today. I just don't know how to handle it, as never been in this position before, can anyone give any advice?

I'd get rid. Not because he has a low sex drive,but because he is an inconsiderate oaf.

I did snigger at finding it hard in your title though. .

Why bother?

If your sex life is rubbish, just move on.

You don't owe him anything.

My recent ex had a very low sex drive, he even pushed me off his cock just before we split, despite letting me start etc...I got rid in the end because it was soul destroying and I can't risk losing any more self esteem because of his issues.

He kindly laid it at my door because he found my scent intimidating?! I've since slept with a rather nice man, who can't get enough...happy days!

I wouldn't waste too much time, and don't let it get you down, it isn't your issue

To be honest I do just feel like moving on, I've even thought abought getting it elsewere, I couldn't do that though I know I couldn't! Its just hard to move on because we do love each other. I do think he is going through some sort of depression tbh

Dump him now.

If this is unusual for him, then it may be worth him popping to the doctors and seeing if there is a cause for it (depression, he's not taking AD's, is he?) However, if he's just someone with a low sex drive, that won't change and it will eat away at your self-esteem. I've known quite a few blokes (partners of friends) who have had low sex drives, it's not true all men are up for it all the time, and without fail, it didn't change during the relationship. In most cases, they moved on, one married him and they had difficulty getting pregnant due to the lack of sex:( As well as making her feel unsexy and unattractive.

He's have to have a hell of a lot of positives to outweight that negative, unless it really is a new situation and looks solvable.

It does push you to think like that, I can totally relate to that. I had to end it as I knew I'd end up doing someone else and I don't want to be that person.

It's hard, but you can't keep being rejected, it will just break you down eventually. Sex in a relationship is really important (for me, personally) and also needs to be worked on

Friends can love each other. Lovers have sex. Break up amicably with the boyfriend, stay mates and then you can each find people that float your boat.