I have a friend who is ttc her first child
She is a professional, owns her own home, early thirties...
She and her partner have a raging cannabis problem and smoke every night and most mornings before work. Her partner also drinks to excess most nights- I've never liked him.
On occasion there is violence in thier relationship, on both parts, followed by soul searching, "ultimatums" and then inevitably reconciliation
My friend speaks often of how she wants and needs to sort out her lifestyle. Her partner doesn't have the same motivation and just wants to continue his current one.
All the above, yet they are ttc. I have no doubt my friend would be a wonderful mother. She works in a caring profession and is a mother figure to many other friends/ family members of hers and is excellent with friends children. She is a smart girl drowning in a toxic relationship. Her partner cannot support her desire to better herself. He kicked off at her when she was prescribed antidepressants at a time she clearly suffered depression. She puts so much in to the relationship and gets little out.
I am on the cusp of telling her once and for all to walk away pronto, before a poor child is born into this. Problem is I've hinted this before and she had separated from him for a while but always go back.
I don't know what, if anything, I should do.
I don't think there is a easy answer. Any words of advice?