Fed up with DH waking the whole household at 6:45am EVERY Sunday morning!!!!RANT

[jac34]

Every Sunday DH plays golf and sets his alarm for 6:45am, he then gets up and clangs around in the kitchen making bacon sandwitches and flasks of soup(he's out all day so takes his own food)leaving all the pans for me to wash.
The boys hear the alarm and think it's time to get up,start bounding about the house and demanding breakfast.So bang goes any layin for mebut I never say a word.
During the week his alarm goes off the same time for him to go to work.I take the boys to school so don't need to get up that early,but get up anyway as I do some housework before dropping the boys and going to work myself.I usually make DH breakfast while he's in the shower(usually something cooked).However, on a Thursday I need to leave the house by 7:20am,as I work a longer day.DH needs to get up anyway as he takes the boys to school,but treats me as if I'm purposely trying to spoil his layin and huffs and puffs no end,of course he wouldn't dream of getting up and making me breakfast as I do for him.

This morning I had a go,said I didn't mind him having his day to himself but why did he have to get up so BLOODY EARLY.

He didn't like it!!!!!
Sorry for the rant just feel tired and annoyed.

Hi jac34

When do you get to have time to yourself? Does he really play golf every Sunday? I wouldn't be washing pans or cooking brekkie for him if he wasn't occasionally doing it for me.I saw my mum running around after my dad so i'm afraid i am the boss and dp runs after me usually.Do you think if you had time to yourself you would cope better with the early Sunday mornings?

I'm astonished as well that he plays golf every Sunday? Really? All day? I wouldn't be happy with that at all! When do you get time to do things together as a family, and when do you get time to yourself?

Perhaps I'd be a bit less grumpy,if while he's making all that noise,he fed the kids and brought me one of those bacon sanwitches in bed
I really get annoyed at him generally taking me for granted.

Can you arrange a lie on on Saturdays?

Saturdays are out I'm afraid we have stepDD on Saturday.DH goes to pick her up and we normally do something all together, thats our famliy day.

jac, has it never occured to you before that you may be getting short-changed here? I would suggest that next Saturday you let your dh have a 'family day' by himself with the kids. Everyone needs a bit of down time occasionally!

Why don't you tell him to take all the kids out every 2nd sat and have a lie in and pamper yourself a bit? If my dp wanted every sunday for himself i would need to have a bit of time to myself too.Go on strike,thats what i do when i feel i'm being taken for granted. No washing,no dinner and NO SEX!!!

I don't really mind him playing golf.I just don't understand why he has to get up so early.
I'm particularly annoyed athe way he treats me on a Thursday when I have a perfectly valid reason to get up.....work.

My dh thinks it is normal to get up shortly after 5 on weekdays - he's gone before kids and I get up just after 6.

Unfortunately the kids have inherited this habit, and think 6 am is the normal time to get up (they're 12 and 14 - so old enough to know better!!!)

My friends are told that I'm extremely lazy, because I don't get up until 8.30 am on a Sunday!!!

Maybe we should all take up golf!

Fairyjay, I see no reason whatsoever to get up with a 12 and 14 year old. They can get themselves up and leave you in bed for as long as you like!

jac- ok you don't mind him playing golf but can't you see that in your week there is no time when you are not with the kids? while he has a whole day every week? seems unfair to me.

I have a day off on a Friday, but I spend about 3 hours of that doing housework, so in between picking the kids up there isn't much time to myself.When I point this out to DH,he says that I choose to do housework, he's not stopping me doing anything else.
Perhaps I should stop and when he notices he's got no clean cloths/the house is a tip/bathroom stinks/beds aren't changed, I'll say I chose to do something else

absolutely jac!!! please this week don't do the housework.go out and have some time to yourself.your dh is being so selfish!

jowen
It's the working mother guilt complex kicking in!
Jac
Take Friday's as your's, and share the housework!
Isn't it so easy to see what other people should do!!!

Well I went on strike.He came home to NO smells of roast cooking.I usually plate a sunday lunch up for him and he warms it up when he comes in.
The boys announced,"Mums on strike,we had hotdogs for lunch,it's because she has to do all the work and never goes anywhere on her own."

He took us all out for dinner and promised not to get up quite so early next week.Also said he did appriciate all that I did for everyone.

Good for you!!!!! I don't go out much at the moment as dd is 19 months and still bf at night befor bed and usually wakes up at least once or twicw so i'm stuck in for the time beingHow old are your kids jac34? I think you should follow through and tell hubby you want every 2nd or 3rd Saturday to yourself.If he needs the time on his own you must need it more i reckon.I bet you work much harder!!! remember you deserve it hope you enjoyed your meal.

agree with other posters jac

why not every second sunday it being YOUR day

or even every second saturday