Is it normal to feel so angry ?

[loganberry12]

you may have read my other post on here about my husband leaving, i was devastated at the time but things are getting easier and i dont want him back now. But i worried that i feel so angry towards him and still obsessive about what he's doing etc is it normal to feel so angry after feeling so sad?

I went from feeling desperate and sad to being angry. I don't speak to him or see him now. I am so cross that he could just walk out without telling me he was unhappy. I'm just angry about what he has done to our beautiful DD who misses him terribly.

I think it is normal for us to go through all of this. I used to obsess but I don't obsess about what he is doing now, I blocked him on Facebook as what he does is of no concern to me any more.

Get yourself busy and you won't care what he is doing.

I'm still angry, very angry, and it's been over two years since I've seen his squinty little weasel fuckface.

I know it'll fade in time but it's going to be a fair few years before I can think of him without wanting to scream.

It's pretty normal to react with anger after you've been desperately hurt.

im ok until i see him when he see the kids or i pass him in the car then it all starts again the little pangs the sadness the anger the obsessiveness. my friends tell me to date someone else then i'll get over him but its only been 3 1?2 moths and im not ready to date yet in fact dont know if i'll ever be it nearly destroyed me when he left i just think he's so selfish.

he works just down the road from me and we quite often pass eachother in the car he usually just blanks me which makes it worse and also awkward when he does come to collect our daughter. She's only 2 1?2 so he has to collect her and i dont have anyone near by he can collect her from so i have to just put up with it and try to stay strong. I wish i never had to see him again really it would make it so much easier.

3 and a half months is nothing at all - there are lots of stages of grief (and you are quite right to be grieving your relationship), I think from memory they are shock, denial, anger, depression, acceptance and moving on. Everyone is different so how long you spend in each stage will vary. You might find you go back and forth as well, think you're past the anger, and then plunge back into it for a while.

Its been 5 months for me, and I'm still angry, depressed and sometimes able to accept things... I find the less contact the easier it is. While you feel so strongly, can anyone do handovers for you for a while? Even just a couple of weeks might give you a much needed break. It has made a huge difference to me to know that I am facilitating my ex to see his son, but that doesn't mean I'm obliged to be friendly to him myself. I will be, eventually, but on my terms - that little bit of control makes a big difference really. So if you can sort something out to give you a rest from seeing him I do recommend it!

5 months for me too and I am utterly boiling mad one day, then the next I don't care at all. I don't see mine or have any contact, so am sure that makes it easier for me. I am told I am normal to feel like this, but hope it will hurry up and pass.

It's four months since he first walked out and although he came back i now know he was texting OW right through the six weeks he was back. It's only just six weeks since I realised it was totally over but in my head now I see it as four months as it was never right after he walked out.

It's too soon to see anybody else. I will wait until my divorce is final before I even think about seeing anyone else.

It's OK, it will pass, the first few weeks or months are hard.

The anger is normal. You have a right to be angry, to mourn, to feel sadness.

Feel those feelings and know that they will soften in time, that you will get through this and you will feel better.

Keep talking to us, keep letting out your feelings and you will get there.

(((((hug))))))

You are nor ready to date someone else yet, it's unrealistic to think that you would be.

You NEED to process your feelings, only then can you heal enough to allow others to share your life or part of it.

Be kind to yourself.

I read a self-help book about dealing with anger and it suggested doing something physical like thumping the mattress as hard as you can or putting a pillow over your head and screaming at the top of your voice whilst thinking about the cause of your anger. It definitely gave me some relief (needless to say you should do it when no one else is around).