I think I've ruined our sex life!

[Scarlet71]

DH and I have always had a great sex life but I think I might have ruined things. Basically, after one too many glasses of wine, I told him something that I probably shouldn't, namely that my previous boyfriend had had an enormous you know what. I'd always kept this a secret because he is nothing like as blessed in that department. (about half the size tbh). This was ages ago but I think he's quite upset about it.

Oh dear, could you go on the offensive and say it was TOO big for comfort? And as long as someone's tackle is average sized it truly is what they do with it.
There's no point in having a huge knob if your a selfish and thoughtless shagger and dont have the connection.
Yes people have one night stands but really making love is about love, commitment, togetherness and so much more.
So you obviously love him, and have a fab sex life so you need to sit him down and say the drink may have loosened your lps but your heart belongs to him, that you utterly love him and cherish what you have and particularly Love your sex life and how he makes you feel and know what you said has upset or hurt him but he is more than man enough for you and can he please put this behind you and take you too bed soon!!

The guy with the biggest knob i have ever seen was the most disappointing shag of my life. My DP is not blessed either, but boy does he make up for it . I know who i would choose!

Some things are best left unsaid, and that was one of them!

Damage limitation needs to kick in and I think coansha gives good advice - should the subject arise again, just dismiss it out of hand and say it was really uncomfortable for you and that he was selfish and didn't know what to do with it.

You say yourself that you & your DH have a great sex life. Which just goes to prove that it ain't what you got, it's the way that you use it

And next time you have too much wine, try and not talk about previous lovers to your husband!

Telling him that the guy with the huge one didn't know what to do with it is such a tired cliche that he'll just assume you're just trying to heal his ego. Ditto for comments involving how great he is in other areas, or 'my heart belongs to you' or anything similarly wet. It all misses what is bothering him here. He's not feeling that he isn't good enough for you, he's feeling that his cock isn't.

Tell him the big cock was painful. Tell him you have the best orgasms with cocks his size because [add some reason here].

It's his cock that he feels is inadequate and needs to be reassured, not the owner or his skills!

Or just show him . You might not need to fake anything but there's nothing like a bit of bedroom drama to build a mans confidence.

Embellish the effect he has on you for a while and always tell him how great he is at other times.

He will recover

I have done something similar and it really was the size of a baked bean can (literally) but I just said that it really hurt me and I hated it) definitely didn't hate it

Better to go with the lie that he was really premature and he never really managed to get it in before spunking.

He will see through 'it was too big to be comfortable' - blokes always think bigger is better against all reason

Thanks for your wonderful wise words all of you. I think it really is damage limitation and I so wish I hadn't said anything. The thing is that it really was too big and I told DH that basically 'he had an enormous willy but it was rubbish' . However, telling DH that this guy was so big that we couldn't really do it properly wasn't the best move! And I can't really lie by saying it wasn't impressive to look at, because it was, especially when I first saw it! Not sure where to go with it now. Can't ignore it because he keeps bringing it up (how big/long etc). Men!

I think the premature ejeculation might be the best here, that would certainly stroke his ego (so to speak)... it was 8 foot long, but he couldn't last longer than 30 secs, and it was never really hard....

Do you think I should give in to his requests for more details or not?

Tell him gently but firmly that it's not the size of the want that counts, but the magic in the stick. ANd that he needs to get over himself.

It's not the size of the wave, it's the motion of the ocean!!

OP I would say to him yes you will answer all he questions about it he wants but once and once only and then lets forget it. You could say it is quite a turn off to think about it, which should both shut him up and please his ego.

(I had the best sex of my life with the man who had the smallest penis I have ever had the pleasure of ahem, encountering.)