Am I wrong to not be offended by this...?

[jenrose29]

We had a baby 3 weeks ago and, having had a very very active sex life before, are both missing sex very much. The other day I pressed the button on DP's phone so I could see the time and saw that he'd been looking at dirty pictures of me, just after he'd taken an extended trip to the bathroom so I'm sure we can guess what he'd been doing...! I thought it was quite complimentary that he was doing it over me rather than random porn stars or whoever, but my friend said she'd be incredibly offended that her partner was 'secretly thinking of her like that when they'd just had a baby.' Am I weird to not be offended?

I cant understand why your would tell a friend anything so personal TBH. Are there no secrets in a relationship any more? Is nothing confidential and private?

i cant understand why anyone would be offended by that. I think its sweet.

If youve got no stitches or anything, you can have sex whenever you like. I was well back in the saddle by then, although make sure you use a condom because i was also pregnant again not long after :\

I think it sounds a bit romantic. :D

Your friend is weird, and perhaps a little jealous. No need to change who you are as you have a small baby, great that you still relate to each other in this way. And, you don't have to wait six weeks if you don't want to, as everyone has said.

I couldn't wait too long to get back into bed with my DH either. I'd had a c-section but was going crazy...so by the 5th day we'd started back up again.

I'd be chuffed if DH did that - 8mo into my pg and we have not had sex since around month 2.

I suspect DH views me as an actual elephant in the room at the moment

You can have sex a lot earlier than 3 weeks after giving birth, mod