Need new baby/mil advice

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We have a new baby and mil has come to visit - she has already given more 'advice' in 5 hours than my mother did in a week. When the baby cries and I pick her up or talk to her, she says I should leave her and she just talks louder about whatever she was talking about before, as though the baby is an inconvenience.

I also don't like how she holds the baby, but I accept that's me being pfb.

Most annoying thing is that she's here to meet her granddaughter but is just talking and talking about everyone/thing other than the baby - shops in her village, choir etc. I know she has her own life but this is the first visit!

Any more advice on getting through the week than 'smile and nod' as it's just not enough!!

I'm always amazed with some mums/mils (I only say some!) at how horrible they can be to a new mum, do they not remember what it was like themselves?! Very cruel. I think your husband should be being more supportive, I know it's hard for him when it's his mum but you are his wife!

Well done for rising above it, I know you would have loved to say something but it's probably best you didn't! I'm sure you're doing a fantastic job and in the future if she makes comments or criticises you, just be firm that this is how you are doing things and its worked fine all the time you have been doing it. How often will she be staying with you in the future?