Why do I find this SO annoying?

[bertiebassett]

Some mornings DH asks me if I know what the weather forecast is for the day.

I usually say, "no" (as I don't pay that much attention to the weather TBH) but if I have my phone with me I look up the forecast and tell him what it says.

If the weather turns out different to the forecast (as it often does!) he later says (in an almost accusatory manner), "You were wrong about the weather weren't you!"

WTF?

I've tried pointing out that IT WAS THE FORECAST THAT WAS WRONG NOT ME but he still continues....

Sorry...just needed to rant...not really expecting anyone to reply

Why don't you start asking him what the weather forecast is before he has a chance to ask you? Then you can blame him when he's wrong.

What bizarre, childish behaviour. Does he do this kind of thing with other subjects? Pick on something that's likely to be wrong so that he can blame you? Obviously, the answer in future is 'find out yourself'. Tit.

sorry, this made me laugh!! tell him he's got a persecution complex maybe, or that you deliberately lie to keep him on his toes?!! if he is otherwise reasonable I would just treat it as one of his funny little ways...

weirdo! him not you.

reply "iphone says sunny/rainy/windy" etc.

Then he will have to blame the phone (I find iphone weather predictions are rarely wrong though).

But yes, it would be bloody annoying. Is he 8?

When you're stuck with someone, their 'funny little ways' can end up being the reason you bury them under the patio.

Check the forecast before you start digging though.

Pa ha ha, you should just tell him there'll be a freak snow storm tomorrow afternoon then at least it will be your fault he dresses up in wooly jumpers and walks around like a banana all day!

that made me laugh too, and yes I would find it very irritating. I would have to say stop being so pathetic or similar

loveis if I did that I'd be just as annoying wouldn't I? I do try (but often fail) NOT to respond to behaviour like this in the same way

cogito once again, you are right! I think I need you to sort out my life...

boschy I like the idea of telling him I do it deliberately! (if only he WAS otherwise reasonable)

You do realise that, apart from being argumentative, he is also stultifyingly boring...? I used to work with a man that if someone said to him .. 'me too'... he would reply with... 'me three'. Every time. I'm not a violent person but the urge to kill was strong.

So does he pick fights over other trivialities? Deliberately try to make you look stupid?

ah, if he's not otherwise reasonable then it is more of a straw/camel's back situation then. sorry.

cogito me three would also make me have to resort to torture.

As the sort of person who finds it ever so hard not to engage with unreasonable behaviour, I would probably tell him that I would not look up the weather forecast for him on the grounds that he would hold me personally responsible if it was wrong. And if your STBXH is anything like my XH (which he is, there's a lot of it about) he will probably say don't be silly, I would never do that. So it's probably best to stick to Plan A, the one where you don't bother to look it up when he is presumably just as capable.

Or, having given said forecast and been told it was wrong, reply cheerfully "Yup", or in a totally uninterested tone "Was I?" and then change the subject. Not being annoyed by deliberately annoying behaviour is the most annoying thing you can do, and it can be oh so satisfying.

Start telling him its going to snow everytime he asks. Hopefully he'll soon get the message.

What a jerk, why can't he just look it up himself? I would be saying ' how the fucking hell do I know, I'm not the MET office!'

He can't look it up himself because he has a ready-made slave to do it, of course - with added bonus of someone to blame if the weather doesn't suit.

hilarious really! sorry
he sounds like a 5 yr old. Just refuse to give him the forecast - say 'look it up so that you don't blame me afterwards if it's wrong', just be direct about his ridiculous behaviour!

Stop looking up the forecast for him. Hide your phone when he asks. Let him look it up himself.

Also, try have a gentle word and ask when did you become enemy no.1? Why would he think you would do something like that to annoy him?

annie actually I do usually do the nonchalent "oh really?" response and seem uninterested ...BUT IT HASN'T STOPPED HIM DOING IT...so maybe I should try "yup" and then laugh?!

cogito me three too He has LOADS of annoying habits...but I'm a pacifist and an incredibly patient and forgiving woman so patio treatment is out of the question...

I'd start making it up, then when he accuses you of being wrong you can tell him it was just a guess anyway.

If he has so many annoying habits, is there a reason you're with him?

You find this so annoying because it is not just one of his "amusing little ways" and it is the tip of a slowly emerging MN discussion iceberg and you are being ground down by the behaviour that you are experiencing.....

What do you want to do next?

Cogito, I think you worked with my Dad

You should ask him the lottery numbers and if they don't all come out say to him you got them wrong didn't you !

fool you're right...unfortunately this IS the tip of the iceberg

However, asI said at the start of this post this WAS just a vent....I've posted before about more serious issues....and I'm sure I will again

For now though...I'm going to tell him that I've decided to change my career...

I'm going to be...

You've guessed it!

A weather girl!

After all they're always wrong too aren't they

being wrong is a necessary qualification for any weather girl...you should have potential employers pounding at your door tomorrow as you appear to be perfectly qualified!!...at least then it will be the whole of the country complaining that you got it wrong...not only DH...much less personal!