I am a SAHM with a 3-year-old DS and a wonderful DH. We have a nice house, I can afford not to work, I have a lovely DS and a wonderful DH who would do anything for me. I have everything to be thankful for, but I have no friends. I?ve always found it difficult to make friends, the friends I do have are very close friends, but they have tended to move away for various reasons, after all, people have their own lives and move on to different things, and although we keep in touch I have no friends locally. I have been to toddler groups with DS when he was younger, and have made lots of aquaintences there, people who I would talk to and would talk to me in the street, but no firm friendships, even though I have, on many occasions, suggested they come round with their kids etc, they generally just say that ?oh yeh, we should arrange something?, and then I tend to never see them again or it just doesn?t happen. Generally people find it easy to talk to me, I am the kind of person that people tend to talk to about their personal problems, and lots of people have said that I am a good listener and give good advice, but that?s where it ends.
Me and DH don?t have any friends as a couple, as DH doesn?t work locally so all his friends are in London where he works. He goes out once every 3 or 4 weeks maybe and I certainly don?t begrudge him that as he works hard and deserves to go out and have some fun with his friends. He?s said to me that if I didn?t want him to go out then he wouldn?t, but I feel that would be selfish, after all, just because I don?t have a social life doesn?t mean he?s not entitled to one.
I?ve been out on my own once since DS was born, and before that I could count the occasions on 1 hand. I just would like to be able to go out once in a while, just to be able to say that ?I?m going out tonight?, but I just can?t see it ever happening.
My family have put me down ever since I can remember, in fact it?s a bit of a standing joke between my mum and my sister that I don?t have any friends. It?s very hurtful but they?re right and I don?t know what, if anything, I can do about it. I just wish I knew why it is that people don?t want to be friends with me. My DH has said to me on so many occasions that he doesn?t understand why either, and that if people can?t see me for the person I am then it?s their loss, but it does hurt and I don?t know how to get past it.
Sorry this sounds so sad and pathetic, and I?m not really expecting to find the answers here, but I just needed to get it off my chest.