For the first time in ages I feel peaceful and happy.

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I have been sad about being single for ages (as some of you on here may know) but more recently I am feeling so much more content being alone.
This is mainly due to the fact that many people I know who are part of a couple are having a rubbish time.
My cousind 'd' H has just jilted her with two very young children (I suspect for another women as he has been working away.) He now wants her and the kids to get out of THEIR house and he dosn't want to pay maintenance.
One of my close friends is in an abusive relationship and her bloke keeps telling her that he fancies her friends (I suspect as a ploy to distance us from her).
Several of my friends have a few men on the go and are constantly texting me their latest dramas and man dilemmas.
One of my frinds asked me how my love life was today and I said I havn't got one and I'm not looking at the moment and i felt ok about it.

I don't miss the jealously (as I am a jealous person), the insecurity and I certainly don't miss being criticised and undermined. I don't miss sex as much as i used to and there is no way i want another baby.

I would like to find a supportive partner one day but for now it just strikes me as hard work and I cannot be arsed. Besides my radar needs fine tuning. Anyone else feel the same?

I feel sad for my friends who are in bad relationships and hope that they find decent blokes one day or at least feel happy alone. Until then I will be there for them.

I have recently started to take anti depressants albiet a very low dose. Mabe that's got something to do with it.

I've felt that way for years tbh. I don't know people with quite such drastic relationship experiences but I know plenty that, when it's all girls together, do nothing but whine about their partners. Even without abusive behaviour it's the usual litany of laziness, selfishness, thoughtlessness etc. I see someone regularly now but we don't live together. The sex is great, he doesn't clutter the place up long enough to get annoying & I stay nicely independent :)

Hmmm. That's a good idea Cogito. Mabe I'll start looking this summer but for now I'd sooner read a good book. Have got Vanity Fair on the go. Hilarious!

Lol, cogito you have a nice set-up there, not always easy to find and one can get bored of looking and need to have a break now and then. No harm in taking time out, it helps you to realise what you want and get that radar tuned in a bit better:-)