Should I be feeling like this?

[krispykritter]

Recently divorced. met a wonderful man about a month ago. All well, fine and dandy. We get on like crazy, same values, down to earth etc. Last Monday was his brithday, but he was called away for a family emergency and didn't contact me until late last night that it had all been rather traumatic (his father had to have emergency surgery and had a long stay in ITU) which I totally understand, and says he 'just needs some space to come to'. I am freaking out that it is all over, but at the same time the rational side of me thinks it isn't at all unreasonable. What should I be feeling?

Oh dear. I'm smelling a rat eau d'cod.

Where did you meet this man and how often have you been out/stayed in with him?

I think you should try to relax and be reasonable. Your emotions might be running away with you. Give him space, but show support. Put his needs first right now and if you have a future, it will all work out. You can't catch love wih a net or a gun as James would say :)

we met around and about - nothing unusual to report there. we have been out and stayed in quite a bit actually...

It's only been a month...

thanks, eclectic, i know i should calm down but really fear the blow off

I understand...keep your chin up though and let it run it's course, youcant prevent him rejecting you as equally you can't be sure that he has that in mind. It takes some resilience to love and be loved. Hope it all works out x

Why don't you just take him on face value? He's had a nasty, emotional experience and needs some time to come to terms with it rather than dump it all on someone he doesn't know very well yet.

I'm afraid I genuinely think that if he was that into you, he'd have at the very least sent a few texts to explain his continued absence and what was happening. Even when dealing with a family illness, there are downtimes. Now that the crisis is over, I very much doubt he needs time to 'come to'. I think what this points to is that he's having doubts or he's had a second chance offered to him by a former love.

Sorry OP, I'm in the 'He's just not that into you" camp as well. Remain open to if he calls again, but don't get your hopes up.