Terrified about wedding day

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Will keep as brief as possible. Am getting married in a few weeks, problem is I am totally missing the bride gene, hate being the centre of attention, passed the point of normal, more like a phobia. i am terrified of saying or doing something stupid during the ceremony, I have a history of panc attacks and anxiety and am terrified of having one when all eyes are on me (and fiancee of course). Everyone is so excited and its going to be a beautiful wedding, please can lots of people tell me that I will feel fine and calm when I walk in the door. just to add, cant wait for the marriage itself, just terrified of the day :-) havent even bought one magazine! luckily have a groom and mother who love planning. i also come accross as uber confident so noone understands how I feel, I have been prescribed beta blockers, diazepam in the oast and have had extensive hypnotherapy!

I wore my veil higher than I thought I would as I couldnt see the guests, the vicar made us take our vows facing each other.

Vicars etc are very good at putting you at your ease too, they usually have a little chat with you before you walk down the aisle, they are used to nervous brides.

You sound like me, as I am a very private and anxious person. I was retching out of my bedroom window because of nerves on the morning of my wedding (nice!). 2 hours later, I had a panic attack. (There is a point to telling you this ).

My wedding rehearsal was a joke because I couldn't get my words out. My Mum told me I was pathetic and I just needed to pull myself together.

BUT once I got in the church on the actual day my nerves vanished. I said my vows loud and proud. It can be done, and even if you do mess up a little, people will understand.

Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding.