Should I 'leave the Bastard' or am I reading too many relationship threads

[Ieavethebastard]

NC for this.

So my DP plays Darts every Thursday night. Last night I was watching a film in our bedroom and he comes in saying he just had a text (I didn't hear it) and he is meant to be out with the darts team but he had forgotten (apparently tickets for this event had already been brought 5 months ago). He sort of tipped his phone towards me showing me this 'text he got' which was too far away for me to see.

He changed his top and left in a rush as the event was about to start. He called when the event finished and said that he was staying out for a few beers. I heard him getting in to bed at 3.30am (though it is possible he had already been in and had got up for the loo at 3.30am)

Should i leave the bastard or am i reading way too many relationship threads.

Leave the bastard, tis clear he is having an affair, is ea to you (clearly tipping his phone to you is unacceptable) and his behaviour may or may not be due to mental issues.

gah, mental health issue. Nevermind. Its too early on a Sunday to get everything right :)

Darts on a Thursday? No one plays darts on a Thursday! It's a Tuesday sport and always has been. Sack him!

What.... Your DH went out... On a Saturday night?!?! While you were happily lying in bed watching a film? Leave the bastard!

Seriously though. Did you have plans that he knew about and disregarded? Is he out on the lash every week spending money you don't have? Does he get arsey when you want a night out? If not then I personally don't see a problem.

ffs woman, darts is a burying under the patio offence joke.

What you need is a lovely young footballer

I think i maybe reading too many relationship threads

Its the deceit and paranoia (tipping phone towards you, ringing to check up on you later) that would worry me.
Has he made you tea in bed this morning?

What? You were watching a FILM in your BEDROOM? It's no surprise he's seeing another woman as you are clearly not fulfillling his needs. You marriage is clearly stale and you obviously don't love / understand him so you can't blame either him OR the OW for your failings as a wife.

lol I know this can come across as a little tongue in cheek - but it is half serious ! (and I really do not want to come across that I am taking the piss out of other women who are experiencing some difficult times in their relationships) - however, I was reading a few threads yesterday and I guess they are making me read into everything in my relationship... I am starting to feel paranoid !!

and no Porridge - he got the tea in bed ...Fathers day and all that!

Could it be that he's simply a bit forgetful and likes drinking beer? And he text/called you so you wouldn't worry.

Tbh and serious, he sounds like a bloke. And a fairly considerate one if he let you know where he was and didn't wake you up by pissing on the bed!

OMG - so sorry OP, I thought it was a joke.

OP - what ddid he do?

am not sure what he did

oops sorry leave- I did take it as tongue-in-cheek. Based on what you have here, I dont see it. Are there other issues you're worried about?
Do you have concerns that he lied to you about the Darts...are there other times he has lied to you? Will he allow you to freely look through his phone to see when messages come in?
But he rang to say he would be home late....not the action of someone who isn't thinking of you

Step away from the relationship boards Ieavehtebastard

:o try the chat boards for a bit.

On the surface he sounds lovely, staying in with the family on a saturday until reminded that he had bought tickets. Letting you know what was happening so you wouldn't worry. Not waking you up when he got in.

Enjoy fathers day, he just sounds like he forgot the darts thing and was in a rush.

it is ok I can get how it sounded tongue in cheek. No other issues. Porridge - I have never looked at his phone, I know it doesn't have a lock on it as our son sometimes uses it.

He is a lovely bloke - no EA issues at all - it is just ..well the whole 'forgot about the night out' seemed a little suspicious (or could do after reading these boards!!) and the idea of an affair crossed my stupid mind. Really need to read some more threads about nice blokes.

Does anyone else get pangs of suspicion after reading the threads on here?

I thought this was a joke too. Doesn't seem like there is a problem here unless there is other stuff you are not telling us.

Why are you reading the relationships boards? Have you had niggling doubts about your relationship?

I can totally imagine DH forgetting about a night out particularly one booked months ago, its an amazement to me that he is so clued up and together at work yet seems to completely forget every single social and child related activity.

I look at DH's phone all the time as he has an i-phone and I don't so I use it to check my emails, I have a peak at his messages and emails as well - not because I suspect him, but well I suppose you never know.

All the signs are good, he phoned you to say he would be late and is normally a nice bloke so i wouldn't worry.

I didn't take it as a joke actually, it does sound a bit odd esepcially the half showing you the text but TBH if there really aren't any other issues that I don't think you have anything to worry about. I am a worrier and worry about odd things like this but when you say them out loud they really don't sound as bad as they do in your head!!!

Like the others say, he called you to let you know he was staying out so thats definitely a good sign.

I trust my DH but I think you always have to be on your toes as rookie said!!

A cynical old bird doesn't believe the "forgot he got tickets" story for a second. The most likely scenario is that it was from one of his mates all right, but calling the gang for a short-notice drinking session with nary a dart in sight. Which is dishonest but probably not a deal-breaker for most. However, you may certainly leave the bastard if you want to

What is not a joke is that Mumsnet is populated by emotional vultures ready to gorge on any troubled relationship before it is even dead.

Well you know what they say: you can fight off the <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=vulture+bird&hl=en&biw=1024&bih=643&gbv=2&tbm=isch&tbnid=YFAfNEXe6yrQkM:&imgrefurl=www.about-falconry.com/vulture-facts.htm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">vultures, but don't let the <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=bustard+bird&hl=en&biw=1024&bih=643&gbv=2&tbm=isch&tbnid=zTxQ55SF_iz2cM:&imgrefurl=www.algarve-birdwatching.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bustards grind you down..

damn link spoiled it :(

vulture

bustard

Joke now well and truly ruined.