Prompted by a thread but not about a thread iykwim!
There have been a couple of threads in the last few days about men going out and getting absolutely out of their trees with booze and then either not coming home or coming home and behaving like a wanker.
There is always a large proportion of replies suggesting the the man is an alcoholic, without any evidence of that at all apart from the odd bender. I am not talking about threads where there is evidence of alcoholism, but threads where these comments are made after he has a one off bender.
Why is it assumed that he must have an addiction issue instead of him just being a totally selfish thoughtless twat? Just because selfish and/or violent behaviour happens when alcohol is involved, surely it doesnt mean that the man must be addicted to it?
If a man goes on a total bender once every few weeks or months, doenst contact his OH, becomes abusive or violent when he does come home, turns his phone off etc, then he is a tosser, not necessarily an alcoholic and I am getting very pissed off at the constant assumptions that he must be. It implies that it isnt entirely his fault that he behaves like this, it his addiction, and also detracts from the main issue which is how his behaviour affects his wife and family.
So, AIBU to be fed up with these internet diagnoses that possibly cause more problems than they solve?