I've posted before about DD's df but am not sure how to link the old post. Gist of the story is he's pretty useless, would prefer to sit around smoking pot with his mates than spend time with DD and even when he does see her he doesn't do much with her. At Easter he just didn't turn up for two weeks, no explanation, didn't respond to texts, wouldn't answer phone. Since then he has been seeing her on Saturdays and although he has turned up every time he's often been an hour late. One Saturday DD came with me when I walked the dog and when we got back he'd gone without even saying goodbye which did upset her a bit.
Anyway, this morning he was due at 9am, at 9.30am he texted me to say sorry he wasn't coming, he was helping a mate move house but he'd come much later in the afternoon and would spend tomorrow with her.
I was really cross about this, she'd been up since 6 and was really looking forward to seeing him. I texted back to say I was sick of his half arsed efforts at fatherhood, that he should put DD above mates and that not to come round later/tomorrow as it wasn't on to change plans at the last minute.
I'm now wondering if I've done the right thing. If he'd asked earlier in the week to change his day I would have been fine with it. Should I text him and apologise and tell him he can come tomorrow? Should I be really strict with him about seeing her as arranged or should I compromise so that she does at least get to see him?