so, he seems to have topped up an old payg simcard -

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Accidently stumbled across the online account this morning and it says something about Recent Activity - nothing for months and then on the 13th of this month = Top up by 10UKP get 5UKP. Does this mean he topped this old simcard? If so, why would he do that? should I call the old number anonymously?

why do you think he had topped up an old pay as you go mobile phone sim card?

I don't know but the account is all dormant for ages and then suddenly he logs in on the 11th and then tops up (I presume) on the 13th on a number he tells me he no longer uses. He went away for the night on a piss up with a friend a few weeks back and has been a bit 'cold' ever since.

Ask him?

If he was up to no good he'd just lie so it's pointless.

If you accessed the account, does it not give you the call history?

Block your number and call his number to see if he answers.

so what if someone answers a phone - what does that mean, it means they heard it ringing

How did you 'accidentally stumble' on a dormant account, OP?

Or do you think unconsciously your spidey senses are picking up that something's a bit off with him?

Why do you think you checked now, so recently after his trip away, when you hadnt bothered to before?

I have never accidentally stumbled across accounts.

Does he have form for this kind of thing?

I'd def try withholding your number and calling to see of he does answer. It is strange he has topped up an old number though.

x- madonnawhore.

Anything else ringing alarm bells?

Who was he away for the night with? Was he definitely where he said he was?

Have you seen him carrying this old phone around? (or is it the SIM he is changing in his own phone?)

Have a dig about when he's in the shower and see if you can find it ... If your gut feeling is something isn't right then I would trust your gut (I wish I had!)

Calling him will only prove he's reactivated the sim. It won't give OP any more info as to why hes reactivated it though.

And if he figures out that OP rang him, it'll make him even more sneaky (assuming he's got something to hide in the first place).

OP, better to try and find this phone and see who he's calling on it.

Yes do trust your instincts - the fact that he has been distant since his night out is a red flag.

I would have a snoop around - try pockets for old receipts, check bank statements/credit card accounts etc.

Has he mentioned a female colleague/friend?

It doesnt mean he has topped it up at all imo????
It means he has a sim and if he tops it up he will get £5 free perhaps as an incentive to start using the sim again.
If he was going to start something illicit hed buy a new sim for £10 with a new number and not register it - then you really wouldnt know a thing about it.

Sometimes you can look for trouble and cause it.

inbox me the number and ill phone it and ask for rebecca or some other name if you want.

My friend reactivated a dormant account when her DD lost her mobile for the nth time and she refused to replace it again. Anyone lost a mobile recently?

Nick may be right about the top up offer. Ae you sure it's saying someone bought a tenner's worth of top up and it's not just an ad for a special deal?

Even so it t still begs the question: why did he log into an old account at all? Maybe the same reason you did?!

You've mentioned he's been cold since he got back from his night away. Is there anything else about his behaviour that you've noticed? Long trips to the bathroom for example? Or taking ages when he pops out to the shop?

Other things - I can't quite put my finger on it. He's usually very clingy and wants to do everything with me but lately he's been more relaxed. Like for instance he asked me if I wanted to go and buy some fish with him today for the tank - I said I was going out. Usually he'd be a) annoyed that I wasn't spending his day off with him and b) asking me where I was going. Today he simply said "ok, I have stuff to be getting on with anyway". I know it sounds "normal" but it isn't normal for him IYSWIM?

I've just called it and it's going straight to answer machine.

Send a text to it but put a read receipt on the text so that you will be alerted if the phone is switched on and the text goes through. If the text isn't delivered within 7 days you will get a message saying it is undeliverable. Do you have access to a number he won't recognize to send the text from?

I recently put £10 on an old SIM card.
It's in a phone that I keep in my car for emergencies, e.g. losing my main phone. You need to keep the card active or the network will eventually cut it off.
Nothing suspicious there.

I also have a spare sim which I keep in my wallet, for entirely innocent reasons. But if the OP is concerned she should listen to her inner voice.

Oh FFS!!! maybe he had left his old phone at home? My DP has two phones because he is a builder and doesn't want to get his smartphone ruined. The "work" phone is payg and he doesn't generally top it up as he calls on his smartphone, but sometimes he gets voice messages so he tops up. Maybe that is the explanation.

If you don't trust your DH, you need to address that, but otherwise - come ON!