friend came round last night v v drunk,

[livvysmum]

male friend came to my house last night, seemed ok at first although i knew he'd had a few. we've been friends for a couple of years and i've even asked him to be my dd's godfather. i am not married and live as a lone parent. he is the first man since my drunk and abusive ex that i have let near me or my dd. i do not have boyfriends, and have even found it difficult to make female friends as my confidence has been so diminished since having an abusive relationship.
well here's the thing, after a while, friend started making lude suggestions and i asked him to leave, but was too drunk to walk home, so i suggested i call a taxi. but he refused to get in when taxi arrived, i had to pay taxi and send him off, spent half a panicky and tearful hour trying to get friend out of house,he fell over and lay on my floor, he got up and banged head, i just wanted him out. i felt as if i was back in that bad relationship again. finally had to call sister and her hubby to take him home, it was 1 o'clock in the morning before i got any sleep.
i felt humliated, threatened and angry with friend and am consisering ending friendship, feel i didn't deserve that, also feel i overreacted due to past experience, feel ashamed because i shouted and neighbours heard, hate that they think badly of me.
any one else have something similiar happen, what should i do, feel awful.

not been through anything similar, but didn't want to leave you unanswered. sounds absolutely grim. I think you are right to consider ending the friendship, as you won't feel secure/like you could trust him any more. I really wouldn't worry about the neighbours, particularly as it's a one off incident.

thank you m27, very thoughtful of you not to leave me hanging, yes i feel your right, somehow a trust has been broken and yes it is a one off so will hold head high and let time pass. just feel so let down. thanks for answering, i appreciate it, feel a bit alone in all this.

Agree with MTS, what the neighbours will think is immaterial.

From your post it doesn't sound as if this friendship is based on respect, and in your shoes I would be worried to be alone with him in the future. Lewd suggestions and refusing to leave your home is not acceptable behaviour, and although he may use the drink as an excuse it really isn't a good reason for him to have behaved as he did. His behaviour would have been enough for me to have ended the friendship then and there as I don't think he has any respect for you and your feelings, and I doubt if I would be able to trust him again.

thankyou WWB, you speak alot of sense, much appreciated.

I would echo wwb it sounds like he made assumptions and drink is not an excuse, refusing to leave your home is appalling..I would avoid him in the future, not because he came round drunk but because he made you feel scared, vulnerable and embarrassed

I don't think you are over-reacting. If he is truly your freind, he would know how your poast would make you feel, and should act with more maturity and consideration.
Well done for getting him out.
You may want to discuss it with him once he sobers up, and tell him directly how it made you feel, and how his behaviour was unacceptable.

Even if he apologises like a wet dog later today, don't say 'oh, it's ok' - thank him for apologising, but yes, his behaviour had upset and humiated you, and you don't want him to ever treat him like that again.

That might help you gather together your self-esteem, actually!

And depending on how he takes it, you could decide whether to give him another chance. But I don't think you should just include him as a freind as if notheing had happened.