Men who want younger women

[bucketbetty]

I'm internet (not) dating and have noticed that most men my age don't want to meet women my age. They specify women younger on almost all occasions. I don't get it. Why always younger, what's that all about? I'm 41 and would really like to meet a man around a similar age to me but many of them highlight an interest in younger women only.

There are lot's of twunts about OP and good men are on there somewhere. The ones who want the younger ones are helping you sort out the wheat from the chaff quicker in as much as you won't go near them anyway so no time lost even striking up a conversation with them I say.

My view is that many men think for some reason that despite their advancing years, greying hair, middle age spread etc that young women will still find them attractive so on the basis that younger women in general are in better nick than older women and men can be very visual creatures, then they stipulate that age group!

Isn't that their preference though? I generally only used to date men older than me, does that make me a twunt?

I'm the same age (almost) and I have seen quite a few that look for women younger to older.

On the other hand, I did specify only 5 years older than me and have so far mostly been in touch with older men.

Maybe some men allow for women of our age who lie about their age?

It may also depend on whether they want children or not. I don't know about you, but I might consider having another child, but it would take a lot of persuasion, whereas younger women ARE more fertile and more likely to want babies. Possibly.
Who knows?

OP why don't you go for a younger man?

My oldest DS, aged 30, got married last year my DIL is 42, they seem really happy and I'm pleased that he has found that "special someone"

oldwoman, I'm flexible and open to meeting any age really (within reason - I draw the line at the 19 year old who emailed me) but ideally I would like to meet someone at the stage I am in my life, e.g. passed going out all the time and enjoying more mature pursuits I get it that some men may want children but some of them already have grown up children, so I'm not sure it's fertility that dictates taste. It hasn't stopped these men contacting me when they stipulate younger women. It also makes me laugh when some men are very strict about the size they want their woman to be, e.g. 9 stone 8 pounds!!!

It is possible that men your age (same age as me) are looking to settle down and start a family, having not found the right woman, busy career... and so they figure that a woman of the same age has less fertile years in her.. which is sadly true.

Although if you want to meet someone past going out and enjoying more mature pursuits then you should probably want to up the age limit that you are looking for.. I am 42 and I certainly have no intention of becoming middle aged yet, and neither do any of the male or female friends my age want to do that!

Men are biologically programmed to seek younger women-it is not of their choosing it is nature, procreation etc However, some -due to life experience -are not bothered re age while some will never learn and go after the dolly birds.

I agree with squeakytoy - i'm 35 but i do have both single & divorced male colleagues & FB friends who are over 40.
Those in the 40 - 45 age group often seem very laddish still - mainly obsessed with football, motorbikes, music, getting 'wrecked', slagging off 'the ex', takeaways, stag weekends to Amsterdam etc.
I would be tempted to look at a wider age range of men to be honest.

Actually, quite a lot of men want women in their 40s because older women have gone beyond the frantically-ticking-clock stage and either had DC or decided against it (or been unable to). But I do think that if you want a man to share 'mature' pursuits with, you might have more luck with older ones.
However, for reasons stated above there are quite a few younger men who like women over 40 at least for something lighthearted and fun.

Personally i don't care if men are still 'laddish' myself - i love going out, so i don't want some guy who wants to stay in all the time. I just don't think that men aged 40-45 are any more mature than men aged in their late 20s or 30s. It could be that the men whose profiles you've found look for younger women because they are think that many women aged 40-45 won't have the same interests as them.

My 31 year old friend has started seeing a 40 year old man who still does not sound like an adult!

All men are not like this - my DH is 34 and a proper grown up.

Betty, having done quite a bit of internet dating, I'm of the same opinion as you. Quite a number of men in their 40's were looking for partners between 25-40ish. A few years ago, I had one man message me who was [gasp]........ 73!!!! That's just slightly older than my father!

Back to your original dilemna - it seems that some of these men are quite immature and so are just looking for a gf who can cope with that level of maturity. All I can say about internet dating is be really choosy.....

All men love women that think they are wonderful. Some insecure types also prefer women that don't question them, don't challenge them intellectually, are obedient, easily manipulated, easily impressed etc. Older/experienced women tend to be rather more cynical and less easily fooled than younger ones.

Ditto what Cogito said, sadly.

it's annoying and pathetic, but hardly shocking.

everyone dating has the right to look for what they want and be as picky as they want... can't really fault anyone for that. how realistic they're being... meh ... any man worth his weight won't limit himself to age or weight - but obviously this will affect attraction hugely.

chin up, put some feelers out there - don't wait to be messaged.