Been with my STBXH for 25 years. First 20 years were fantastic. 5 years ago he got promotion with led to him having quite a 'high profile' job. That's when things changed, always in meetings, staying in hotels instead of coming home, total personality change, guarding his phone, always texting (his chairman-yeh right). Yep, you guessed it was having a 'relationship' of some sort with a woman at work.
3 years ago he moved companies in to an even more 'high profile' job. After a few months same pattern started again and hey guess what he was having a 'relationship' with a woman at work!!
I tried talking to him on many occasions but obviously I was 'mad, mental, stupid, imagining things', until one day his phone bill arrived with over a thousand texts/calls to this woman at work. As I then had the proof he couldn't deny it. He moved out for a week to decide which one of us he wanted !!!!!
Oh I wasn't I the lucky one....he chose me,!! That was after I 'found' him at her house when guess what....he told me he was staying in a hotel.
Things between us got better for a few months, until I found the secret phone.
Like the silly woman I was, and him promising not to do anything again we carried on.
Anyway, as you've probably guessed, and as assumed but didn't want to believe, the relationship carried on with the other woman at work. He moved out, to be single and do his own thing.........which he had been doing for the last few years anyway.
Guess what....yes I found the OW at his flat!!
He came to my home to see our Dd, we decided to be friends for Dds sake, very difficult for me as wanted to hate him, but couldn't, I would for days then he's ring/text me I'd calm down etc. We got in to a pattern where he'd come and see Dd twice a week, he texted/ring me everyday. He said he wasn't seeing ow, only for a drink as friends every now and again (yeh right).
Anyway, fast forward a year the ow he is not seeing anymore, has actually been introduced to his family and friends. This weekend, which would have been our anniversary he text me to say it was a difficult day for him, so bloody difficult (as I later found out), that he spent the day with OW and his parents (bless him).
He has now been gone a year, in that time I have been through every emotion possible. I woke up Monday and realised any feelings, respect (although I think my respect for him went a long time ago), love for him has disappeared. Every word that comes out of his mouth is a lie.
Today I am seeing a solicitor to start divorce proceedings.
We are both 41 (he has just bought himself a sports car........mid-life crisis)???????????