How to avoid a nag-a-thon?

[fantomas]

Without meaning to, I seem to be heading down the slippery slope to becoming a prize nag. My DH is lovely and great with our DS but he does have a tendency to sit back and leave me to deal with the household/admin type chores, unless I ask him (if feeling rational) to pitch in or nag him senseless (if feeling tired and irrational). I can't seem to get him to see that, as we both work full time, these boring tasks are something that should be shared, not my responsibility.

So, any top tips for how to get him to see sense without becoming a harpy or subjecting him to regular rants?

Fantomas - no tips just sharing my experiences.

Its maybe that he doesn't see the chores U ask him to do as important or necessary. We each have our own crunch points. My 1st husband (we didn't have kids) didn't do any dusting or cleaning of bathroom. He just didn't see the dirt/it didn't bother him, so why do it. It bothered me so I did it every other week even though I was working in far more demanding job than him. Never bothered asking him just got on with it, i guess because I loved him, also he wouldn't have done it properly/ my way and I prior to DD I was a contol freak. I don't think Marriage is about equity, there is no job descriptions/ contracts are there. I didn't realise this until I became SP and was left holding baby, paying of mortgage etc.

I don't think any of us like being asked to do things. As much as I adore my DH if he said can you put all your clothes away that are strewn on the floor, I wouldn't do it - my clothes my house, I'm not a child to be dictated to attitude.
We have 2 TV licenses - a waste of £150 pa I have asked DH once to cancel his but I don't nag as life too short.

Hav to cut this short as DD ill and have to collect her from nursery.

I disagree with Lasvegas I think you need to split the tasks up and yes if you both work outside teh home full time that's 50/50.

Make a list of everything that needs doing on a regualr basis. Take some time out and work through the list, agreeing who will do what, and when.

Then let him get on with his bits. Don't criticise him if he doesn;t do things they way you might have done them.

At least the chores will be done.

Meant to add my DH hates doing the list thing but he hates me nagging more.