what would you do/say??

[babyjane67]

this has been worrying me for little while now&havent broached it with anyone in rl
a v close friend confided in me that she has some worries about her dp.theyve been together5yrs tho shes known him7
when their ds was still in cot in their bedrrom her&dp were making love one niight&she opened her eyes to look at him&he was looking at their sleeping child!!!!!
shes never said anything to him about it but wanted my opinion
i really dont know what to tell her!!!!need some advice please!!!!!!!

Is this the only worry she's got about her dp?

He prob just glanced at the DC to make sure they were asleep!

He was probably just checking the child was asleep, or wondering at the marvel of a child that his fantastic partner had given him.
It's unlikely he was having any untoward thoughts..

If the child was sleeping wouldn't the light be off?

What's the problem?

She thinks he might be a paedo - is that the suggestion?

He in all likelihood was looking over thinking 'shit, did he make a noise? I'm sure he made a noise...is he waking up, please don't wake up!'

Either that or he was staring in that direction but looking at nothing in particular whilst his mind was 'on the job' so to speak - daydreaming if you will.

Sounds like maybe he was worried about the baby waking up and seeing them?
Like looking at the door in case older children suddenly come in and catch you at it.

And if she had glanced over at the child also, would that be a problem/issue too?

Please tell me you're not hinting at what I think you are.

It sounds to me like her DP was just checking that his bumping and grinding was not waking his DC up.

Would there be a problem if your friend was looking over at DC while her DP was bumping and grinding and he opened his eyes and saw her looking?

Jeez, I look over at the baby in its cot all the time when DH and I are getting it on. I'm hoping he doesn't wake up!

so caring parents aren't allowed to look over at their (hopefully) sleeping child when they're having sex? am I missing something here?

i did say it wouldnt have been a prob for me but think there maybe other issues too.
like he never wanted ds to move into his own room&kept putting it off&took for ever decorating the new room!!
i dont know!my friend is prone to being bit of a drama queen sometimes bless her!!but if it is genuinely worrying her dont know what to do to help her!

Gosh, my DP and I both glance at the Moses basket from time to time whilst DTD.
Whenever she makes a noise we worry that she may wake up and spot us 'in action'. At 13 weeks I'm sure she wouldn't care, but it's still not the ideal scenario.

DP could have caught me doing this last night, the night before that, or any other night in the last week and I assure you there is no untoward intention. It puts me off a bit and I will be glad when she is in her own room!

OK, yes, stealth boast that we have huge amounts of sex following birth. However, I didn't even share a bed with ex after babies were born so I'm as amazed as you are

Crap at strikethroughs

Wow. If she has genuine worries she should be talking with her husband but tbh this is not something you go round accusing people of.

This is not anything like evidence of inappropriate behaviour. Perhaps ask her if anything else is on her mind?

It does sound like a case of dramaqueenitis. Maybe her dp took his time getting the ds's room together because he is an idle fecker was knackered after working all week?

How old is the ds?

My Dh doesn't want DS in his own room because he panics every time DS doesn't make noises in his sleep. I don't assume its cause he's molesting DS. :S

ds is just turned4only been in own room about a yr or so.
yea her dp is very over protective of ds&he is their only child.
think my friend is bit jealous maybe of amount of affection he shows ds when he doesnt actually show her very much.ie in bedroom dept.think their sex life is very sporadic to say the least!!she complains to me about it often!!!!