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Do you have Half Siblings?

22 replies

Beetroot · 23/02/2006 11:20

If so are you close? are they 'family'

If not why not

Discuss!

OP posts:
zubb · 23/02/2006 11:25

I have half brothers, and we are closer as we get older. We weren't that close as kids as they are my fathers children and we didn't live with them and saw them infrequently, now we chat on the phone and see each other a few times a year. We were closer to our step-siblings (step-fathers children) as they stayed regularly with us, we went on holidays together etc.

NotQuiteCockney · 23/02/2006 11:27

I have three half-siblings. One I'm reasonably close with (adopted out, so I didn't know him until recently). The other two I don't speak to because they're not very nice people. Both have done significant amount of prison time, for violent crimes.

FrayedKnot · 23/02/2006 11:32

DS has two half siblings.

Sadly I don't think they will ever be very close.

The age gap is big (17 & 18 yrs), so they will always be adults to him and also we live 200 miles away now and he sees them infrequently.

I hope maybe they will be closer when they are older.

dss & dsd going through their independent don't need parents stage atm but hope it might change when they settle down themselves.

3princesses · 23/02/2006 11:36

Sorry-- temporarily booted off computer by Neo-teenage-brat.

Yes. Have 2 younger half brothers and LOVE them both. They were born when I was 7 and 9, just at that age when I wanted to be a little mummy to them, and my step-mother was luckily v. patient about this. My father (our father) died when I was 11 (they were 3 and 5) but in spite of this we still continued to go on holidays together (all through my own teenage brat years) and remained really close. Am doting Godmother to older one's children.

3princesses · 23/02/2006 11:37

Ooh-- and why do you ask, by the way!

coppertop · 23/02/2006 11:44

I have 2 half-sisters. One has the same father as me. I've never really seen her and she doesn't seem like a sister all tbh. My other half-sister has the same mother as me. We grew up in the same house and I think of her as a sister rather than half-sister.

MerlinsBeard · 23/02/2006 11:50

i have a half bro and half sis (to my dad) we were close until my dad and his wife split up and she moved a few times with the kids.

They have just come back to the area with their brother (complicated!) as their mum has just died of horrific cancers hope that we can be close again, they are only young too

MerlinsBeard · 23/02/2006 11:50

i have a half bro and half sis (to my dad) we were close until my dad and his wife split up and she moved a few times with the kids.

They have just come back to the area with their brother (complicated!) as their mum has just died of horrific cancers hope that we can be close again, they are only young too

lemonstartree · 23/02/2006 11:51

I have three half brothers. They live in Australia and are much older than me (17/20/23 years older) we are vaguely in touch at Christmas and the such like.

ds1 is biologically not my husbands child so in biology he and ds2 and ds3 are only half siblings. But Dh has lived with him since he was 18 months old, adopted him and I expect he will think of his brothers as exactly that - brothers.

Elf1981 · 23/02/2006 11:56

My family (and my DH's) are complicated.
I have: a step sister, a step brother, a sister and a half sister. My mum left my biological father when I was really young, I dont remember him. She met my "dad" when I was young, around two I think. They married when I was five and in my mind there is no question that he is my dad. Same view as my older sister. He had a son and daughter from a first marriage. He and my mum had a daughter, who is techincally my half sister. I am not close to my step brother or sister, but am extremely close to my sister and half sister. In fact, we're just "sisters" whereas the step siblings are always referred to as step. Same as my "step dad" is just dad.

My DH, well, his parents had two sons (he was the younger one) and a daughter. They separated. His mum married a man who had three daughters. His dad married a woman who had a son and daughter. My husband isn't close to any of them.

stephanie21 · 23/02/2006 12:00

i have a half brother and half sister.both are younger than my eldest!have never had anything to do with them,as they are my dads kids,and funny thing is when i was pg with my first,as i was only 16,my dad said 'your no daughter of mine' so havent spoken to him since.i had my ds and called him michael,and guess what,my dads gf got the letter i sent telling him of his grandson,gf didnt tell my dad and called her ds michael aswell!

Beetroot · 23/02/2006 13:13

So most to dads?

And most not clse.

Good tht means I am normal!!

I ahve two, see them at famly gatering once a year.

The girl i find tedious, she sees me as competion (yawn) and flirts with my brothers (double yawn)

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littlemisspiggy · 23/02/2006 13:33

I have 6 half siblings whom I have only really found out about in the last year or so.
My mum met my biological father abroad and fell pregnant. He was already married although supposedly separated he subsequently got back together with his wife. AT that point my mum was aware that he already had 2 children.
Twist in the story. When I was about 2 he died (had never actually seen me yet but knew about and acknowledged me).
Fast forward to two years ago. By absolute pure coincidence I met a woman who turned out to be my father's cousin's daughter. Through her father and that wonderful thing called the internet I got in contact with and met my half sister here in London. She explained that I have (all half) 2 brothers about 10+ years older (both to different mothers), herself 10 yrs older (same mother as one of the brothers), a sister of the same age as me and another sister about 2 years younger (both have the same mother). The sister I met also told me that there is another brother (he claims) lurking in the background but they have very little contact with him.
Weird eh?

Flossam · 23/02/2006 13:36

I have one SB who I used to be very close to. Much less so now though sadly.

I have two HB who I have never met as I have had little to do with my father during my life. His choice mainly post divorce, contact initiated by myself once, invited to wedding after first meeting in two weeks, didn't feel able to go, too much too soon. Contact sporadic and lasting 3 years, stopped by him again. Now wish to have not contact with him, and therefore sadly, miss out on hb's and their families.

KateF · 23/02/2006 13:40

I have a half-brother and sister but have never met them! My dad's first marriage broke up when they were little and their mother refused to let him see them. I am a child of his second marriage and found out by accident when I was 13. I was not allowed to mention it and my brother still does not know. I have thought on and off about trying to trace them but we would be complete strangers. I do feel that they ought to know that our father died 7 years ago and I feel odd that my dds have cousins they will never know (no other cousins btw).

charliecat · 23/02/2006 13:41

I have a half brother and sister that I grew up with. Dont speak to sister anymore but love brother dearly, hes mentally ill so any problems ive had with him have been through that. My sister was just a cow.
Have various half sisters that I dont know and one that I do, we get on fine.
They are just my brothers and sisters though. I dont add the half bit on except if someone really asks.

littlemisspiggy · 23/02/2006 13:42

God families are weird! a your dad Stephanie.

stephanie21 · 23/02/2006 13:44

shall i confuse you all now?right...

ds1-his dad buggered off when told him i was pregnant

dd1-her dad was a complete sh*te to me,so left him for his brother!!

dd2,ds2,dd3 all dh's.

but the last three are also cousins with dd2!!

then,to complicate it more,my mum married dh's dad,so i am my own dh's step sister!!!!

littlemisspiggy · 23/02/2006 14:10

Say that again

sickandtired · 23/02/2006 14:19

my ds's have two half sisters (older) 1 half sister is 12 the other 10, ds1 is 3 ds2 2. The all love each other unconditionally, and I see them as brothers and sisters. SD1 gets v v v upset if anyone refers to the boys as1/2 anything, and says that they are her brothers, and thats the end of it.

We do have them every weekend and one night during the week, and they come on every holiday with us, so maybe that makes the difference?

stephanie21 · 23/02/2006 15:07

told you it was confusing littlemisspiggy!!!weve been trying to do our family tree!its impossible!!!

jenkel · 23/02/2006 15:33

DH has a half sister who is 12 years his junior, same mum. Always seem to be pretty close especially considering the age difference, my 2 dd's idolise her.

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