So, separated Feb last year. Met new man in December via internet. If I'm honest, wasn't totally ready for the new relationship, kind of took me by surprise. Only went internet dating looking for something casual and it has turned into something serious.
New relationship is great but it is sooooo tricky. Some weeks we are lucky to see each other a couple of times a week. My ex has the kids every other weekend and I have them the rest of the time. My partner has his son about half the time - fairly casual arrangement. My job means I have to spend some evenings working. So just finding a time when neither of us has kids is difficult - when we do get the time together it's great and then we really miss each other when life gets back to normal.
We have recently met each other's kids but want to take this at a slow pace. We both feel we still want time with just our kids. Also, when we are around the kids we can't really behave like a couple which feels really strange.
The exes cause problems. Mine keeps threatening legal action and still has a way of totally undermining my confidence. My partner's ex seems to forget she's not married to him sometimes. And there's the emotional baggage from failed marriages.
We just both feel we are emotionally in a place where we want to be together loads but the reality is that we still see each other very little. He has been unwell this weekend and I've really wanted to be with him but it just hasn't been possible.
Just wondered about other people's experience of relationships post divorce. Does it get any easier?