I've name changed for this, as I have other things going on, and I don't want to drag them in (some to do with DH), but need a perspective just on this issue, and not the other things.
The first Christmas together, DH demanded I buy him a video camera. He bought me a surprise (something I couldn't use), but he demanded I buy him the one he wanted, or else it meant I didn't love him.
For birthdays this theme has continued - one year he bought me a digital camera (cheapish one), and I bought him lots of things for his - then he wanted the money towards a new car for him (a couple of grand).
He constantly does this - just wants things, but never reciprocates.
This year, for my birthday, he bought me HP box set (DVDs). Funnily enough I wasn't happy with this, especially since I already have the first four films. Now his birthday is coming up, and he wants a - gun! He originally wanted one that cost over £270, now he's found one a bit cheaper, and wants to travel to get it. He wants the money from me, for his birthday present.
I know it doesn't sound much. But we're really hard up - and mean really. I don't know in fact whether he's in debt, as he does online banking, so I have no idea (he has his own account as he had a joint account with his ex, and she left him in debt, which I helped clear).
He pisses me off with his (adult) son too. He takes him out for meals every time he comes up here, yet never, ever takes me out. When I pulled him up on this, last week, he said I could come - not the point, I don't want the only 'date' night to be one where his son comes too. Besides he didn't even take me out for my birthday, which was the hardest one in my life, where frankly he should have been more attentive to me, than anyone else in his life (including his son), so I was pissed off that the lad asks, and DH goes along with it. There is another reason why I hate DH taking his son out - due to the last time he did, and he was advised to look after me, didn't, and something awful happened. So I hold resentment I agree.
We rarely have sex - have twice in the last 7 months (probably due to something else which will 'out' me if I include it here), but I'm sick of it now. When we do try, he can't come (has had this problem since we married). And now has to look at his laptop before he will try - so there can never be spontaneity. I go to bed, he comes up 30 mins later - no romance, no seduction, no building of sexual tension. The other day I took a sleeping tablet before he came up, as he has rejected me for 7 months, then suggested "tonight", spent all evening outside, then when I went to bed, said he needed another cigarette.
I have looked into leaving him, I just don't know if it's worth hanging on - it's all about him, I feel like a peripheral.